How can I get custody of my daughter?

Question

I have a 6 month old daughter with my wife. She hits me and she has a very short temper with me, our daughter and our dogs. She has depression and is taking meds for it. She is in the military and works alot while I stay home with the baby, so I have no income on my own. I love my daughter very much and I have been thinking about devore sice before my daughter was born but I never did because I cant imagine living without her. Can anyone help me please???

Answer 1

I am a single parent and understand where you are coming from. In order for you to get full custudy you would have to prove her to be an unfit parent. Which is very hard. My attorney said its rare they take a child from its mother.

Answer 2

Depression is depression.... very common and basically irrelevent so long as she's being treated. A short temper.... well... alot of people have that. But hitting is never right. It doesn't indicate any tendancy to abuse your child though... and thats the main point.

It actually sounds like you're in a similar situation to most stay at home mom's. Your spouse works alot, is tired, stressed,... and the pressure follows her home from work. Do what us wives do.... try to understand her stress, be supportive, and communicate to try to find a resolution...before you start looking for an immediate way out. Your daughter deserves at least that much before you destroy her family and try to take her away from her mother.

Answer 3

Well, if I were you I would get some secret footage surveillance of your wife's abuse. That should coincide with your obtaining employment also.

How is a man going to get custody of his child without a job? How is a man heading up his household in a loving manner if he is not a provider for his family?

I feel you should get a job first and stop being her little bitc...you know? Support yourself and your daughter and even your wife for a little while and get your hidden camera and and audio cassette working. You need to store the finished product away from your home up until the time is needed for you to display this evidence to an attorney and to the court.

I am happy I am not married or in a relationship right now in these last days. These last days are times critical to deal with.

You have your work cut out for you but you should play it smart. If she is beating you, she is probably doing other things outside the marriage too. Maybe that should be explored, but abuse is never acceptable.

I am glad to be single right now. I will gladly wait on Armageddon to see what God has in store for "relationships" in the new system. I don't think it will be anything like what we experience in this system today.

I wish you well and be smart. Maybe the police should be called to document things but be sure to have something on cam to be able to show them when they show up. Don't try to instigate things to "make" something happen because this will show.

Bless you.

Answer 4

You need to document everything, and I mean EVERYTHING. When has she hit you, your dog, your daughter? How often? What meds is she on? Keep the labels off of those empty bottles. How is she mistreating everyone? You need to make a log. Copy any correspondence you think may be important. Late bills, phone records, etc... etc... Anything from her Personnel file would be excellent. Any reprimands? Copy that stuff.

You can't stay with the wife and you know it. No man wants to be a punching bag or an emasculated piece of meat. I put up with my my ex for almost 7 and a half yrs, and that was 7 too long.
Whatever records/documentation you make, don't keep them at the house, she'll find and destroy them. Don't delude yourself by thinking "She'll never find 'em here." Trust me, she WILL find them. Keep everything with someone you can trust and can keep their mouth shut. Don't trust someone else affiliated w/the military, ie... another military member or dependent. Word WILL get back to the wife. Trust me on this, I retired at 20 and know how it works.

Answer 5

As long as you have no income, I'm sure she believes she has you at an advantage. Even though you have a child, you need to go to work and make your and your wife's living. I'm not saying this is possible since I don't know your situation, but this could be an important action on your part. As far as the hitting goes, you need to sit down when you are both without anger and have a discussion about it. Why does she do it and what triggers it in her. You both can work on that aspect of her anger management, if she admits she does have a problem. Good luck.

Answer 6

Custody is not automatically given to the mother anymore if her work commitments keep her away a lot you may by able to apply for custody. Document as much as you can regarding her drug use and her depression having a dairy of events will definitely help your case. You will also have to prove you can provide financial support for your daughter look into possible child care and at least a part time job. She is too little not to have a parent to provide the majority of her day to day care the courts will take this into consideration.

Answer 7

Check with a lawyer first but a court will only grant a father full custody or main custody if the mom either is an unfit mother or gives up custody. If you can prove that you can bring in a good salary and can provide for the child with no problem than the favors are in your court. The mother's actions have to be proven dangerous and true! Good luck.

Answer 8

Oh dear! What a life. Can you invite a female family member to come help you and her out?
I mean, your wife probably wishes she could be home mothering her baby!! That in itself could be very depressing. Meds dont really help for depression in the long run...action does. Fixing the problem that is causing the depression...drugs just haze the brain into postponing the inevitable!! sigh* Sit with her and discuss your idea of leaving, or bringing in help, counseling on good parenting, talk to admin. at her CQ. Get her some help...youre losing your wife and mother of your child.
You seem a bit depressed toooo...talk of leaving?? with a 6mos old? oh...take care dear and good luck, love.!!

Answer 9

Here in Connecticut, unless you can prove the mother is abusive, on drugs, or financially unable to provide for a child the man hasn't a chance. Dept of Children and Families (DCF) is the last person you want for help, however, if they evaluated her, and found her abusive or neglective you will be granted legal custody.

Answer 10

You need to let go of her. Your not independant, so your staying with her. Get independant, file for divorce, and fight for your daughter.