I feel kinda guilty because I can give myself..?

Question

a better orgasim than than my husband can. Is this normal?

DO YOU GUYS LIKE TO WATCH A GIRL MASTERBATE? DO YOU THINK MY HUSBAND WOULD ENJOY WATCHING?

Answer 1

i think its like that with everyone.

Answer 2

Dont feel guilty at all.

I have been married for 10 years and my wife cannot have an orgasm without masterbation. As little as we know about a females orgasm what I have learned as a male is it is much more complicated than physical stimulation. The most important thing is that you both feel comfortable with one another and can communicate properly and enjoy each other on a clear and even plane.
We have communicated very well on this subject and have found methods to make sure both of us receive the proper attention during romantic moments that make us depart both emotionally and physically contented.
Talk about it and respect your partners needs there is no better medicine than that.

Answer 3

Of course they do, it makes them more horny. I can give myself a better orgasm than any man, and I don't feel guilty. Men don't really know how to touch a woman, most of the time they're working hard at doing nothing. When they go to sleep, as they all do, pleasure yourself, and have a great time! It is normal because you know where every integral part of your anatomy is, and you know what it takes to make things happen. It's easier to do it yourself rather than teach someone. I am totally against lesbian relationships, but I can understand how they connect sexually because a woman knows what a woman wants, and can actually relate because you know exactly how what you're doing makes the other woman feel. A man can never know this.

Answer 4

It's not unusual for a woman to be able to give herself a better orgasim than someone else can. Ecspecially if you have been doing it a while. You know exactlly what you like and exactlly how you like it. Give your husband some lessons in how you like it. Who knows, it may be a turn on for him and he may actually learn to give you what you want and how you want it. My husband still hasn't got it down the exact way that I like it but he is trying, and we are having fun while he does! Give him a break and give him a show, he'll get there.

Answer 5

It is normal to feel guilty but any orgasm achieved with or without a partner should be enjoyed. I've found that when I'm making love with my partner, I'm more focused on her experiencing the most pleasure I can give her.

When I'm pleasuring myself, I can just focus on my body's reaction and not have to focus on anything else. It's not necessarily "better", but does allow you to obtain release in a different way.

If it is something that your husband isn't doing that he could be, let him know. Either way enjoy.

Answer 6

A lot of women experience what you do. This is perfectly normal since it is your body and you know precisely how to turn yourself on. Plus the only way a woman can experience a full orgasm in simultaneous clitoral and vaginal (preferably near the G spot) stimulation - and that's hard for any man to do, after all he's also intent on pleasuring himself. So experiment with yourself, share with your husband what feels good and enjoy both his company and yours!

Answer 7

Don't feel guilty. It is a known FACT that women achieve an orgasm by stimulating the clitoris. Ever wonder why most women orgasm when given oral sex, but not much when the actual deed is done? It is completely normal. There are a good majority of women who don't orgasm with their partners when doing the deed.

Most females reach orgasm by clitoral stimulation, manual or oral, or by using a dildo or vibrator. Just accept the fact that "playing with yourself" is an okay thing to do. In fact, it is therapeutic, especially if you have never reached orgasm. Most women have their first orgasm all by themselves. Once you have learned what works for you, then you can share that information with your partner who can incorporate the moves into your sex play. Guys tell us what they like, why can't women tell them what works for us?

Answer 8

Penni H.... masturbation is a sin??? Are you for friggin real??? I must have missed that commandment.... "thou shalt not masturbate"... will have to reread my bible LMAO....

Seriously.... this is totally normal. You know your body better than anyone, and you know exactly what and where to touch, how long, what pressure, what motion, ect. And its not always the same each time, its mood dependent, and your husband isn't a mind reader. Communication DURING sex is the answer... and its just that simple.

Answer 9

When you have an itch on your back, do you scratch it yourself? You do if you can reach it because you know where it is and how much it itches. If you don't you get someone to scratch it for you and tell them lower, higher, etc. until it is just right.
So as to your question, if you tell him where it itches and how to itch it, and work with him to get it good and he does nothing about it, how can you feel guilty? But if he would like to know, and you don't share with him, I would say you better find a good excuse when he finds the backscratcher in the drawer.
Trust me, he will eventually.

Answer 10

lol unfortunately yes it is normal. However you can fix this by explaining to your husband what he needs to do to get you off. Guide him slowly until he's a pro and can get you off on command. I'm sure he wont have a problem in learning to be a better lover.

Answer 11

Don't feel guilty, that is very normal. You know exactly where to touch, how hard, etc and your husband has to be able to read your face, your reacations, etc. So don't feel guilty, just teach him what to do and let it go from there.