Did you know 80% of second marriages end in divorce?

Question

50% of the general public ends in divorce, 60% of Christian marriages end in divorce and 80% on second marriages. What do you think causes this 80%

Answer 1

The reason for that is that most people marry the "same person over again." Not LITERALLY the same human being, but the exact same type. What they are looking for in a mate does not change.

They don't learn from the first one, and they unconsciously marry the same type of person.


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Answer 2

I'm not sure whether the percentage is accurate but I think there are several reasons second marriages end in divorce more often than first.
1. Sometimes people remarry on the rebound and find out they aren't really in love with the person they married.
2. Most often people from divorce bring baggage from their first marriage with them. If their first spouse cheated on them they will find it hard to trust their second spouse. If alcohol ruined their first marriage it may have the same effect in their second.
3. Once you realize "til death do us part" is not fool proof, perhaps you might throw in the towel sooner on the second marriage.
4. Many second marriages come equipped with step children. This can put a huge strain on a new marriage as children seldom embrace the new "parent" right away.
5. In all marriages, friends, family and even strangers are quick to say, "dump him" or her rather than staying out of it or offering a sympathetic unbiased ear. Marriage requires commitment, which means that even when things get rough financially or emotionally or even when a vow is broken, it doesn't mean you should just quit. But that's how so many people seem to react today.

Answer 3

Sobering isn't it! The numbers tell us some very important things. Things like love,respect,sacrifice and communication are the ingrediants to the glue which holds it together. Observe couples you know and see if you see these qualities in each of them or only one of them. Marriage needs team work. If one spouse is a giver and the other is a taker it is unbalanced. If both are takers (selfish) it is off the scales. A happy,healthy marriage comes from equal givers. Notice the ingrediants to the glue,love,respect,sacrifice and communication, givers bare these qualities. Takers, they struggle with showing real affection, could care less what you think of feel, would not go out of thier way for anyone let alone you and rather than communicate,,,,just simply lay all the blame for all problems on you. How is THAT ever going to work? It won't. Now, if you can find a couple that has been married for a very long time,once again, observe them. What qualities do you see in each of them. One of two things, either they have worked together as a team and are happy together or they "stayed for the childrens sake' and tolerated one another. There are ways to avoid becoming a percentage in broken marriages. Consider these tips. Do YOU have any or all of these qualities that you can offer in a marriage? Are you looking for someone with the SAME qualities or will you just take anything that cames along because you are lonely? Strongly consider where you are looking for Mr or Mrs Right. Are you looking on the outward appearance or do you look past that and straight to the heart? Sometimes, what LOOKS good ain't always good. Some people are so 'pretty' they are stuck on themselves. Maybe that NOT so drop dead good looking person might just be the one. Why? Because he/she might just have a heart. While everything I have said is not always the case and different people vary just like waves in the sea are not all alike, take what you can learn from these thought and apply it yo your own life and go from there. A final note: Many years ago my best friend and I shared everything and went everywhere together. During that time we learned a LOT about each other. Likes,dislikes,foods,opinions on politics,religion,marriage,children ect. We were FRIENDS first and foremost and not about trying to be something we weren't. We didn't try to impress each other, we were just ourselves. I really learned what type of person HE mostly was. I married him nearly 30 years ago. I still get butterflies when his hand brushes mine, his lips are as warm and inviting as they ever were, honestly,,,more so and I have remained deeply in love throughout the years. Oh I'm not trying to paint a perfect picture,,we had things to work through, but,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,we have the ingredients to the glue.

Answer 4

Divorce happens for many reasons. Some reasons are rushing, not sticking it out, marrying for the wrong reasons, pretending and very noticeable personality differences. Rushing into a marriage for whatever reason will only postpone what a couple needs to know about that person until later. Not sticking it out results from a fight or series of fights that people dont want to sit down and figure out. Marrying for others, for children, for hope or correction of a problem will eventually turn its self around to show how it was a large mistake. Pretending that you love a person or that this person will change will result in divorce unless you fall in love with the real person. lol And personality mis-match is just caused by ignoring those traits. High schools notice these why does the wiser adult ignore it?!

Answer 5

Wow i knew about the first time not the second time around. The cause for any divorce is that a marriage is two selfish people living together. Of course there are people here who say they arent selfish. The answer is in the bible. But that takes too much hard work of giving and forgiving and serving your mate, then there is actually reading the bible and applying its principles to everyday life.

Answer 6

Many 2nd marriages tend to be rebound marriages (marriages entered into quickly following a divorce. The success of 2nd marriages would improve greatly if those involved would date at least 3 people prior to considering anyone for a long term relationship.

Answer 7

Marriages fail because they never have a solid foundation. For example lots and lots of relationships are based on sex. This is the worst foundation there is.
The couple never try to explore and find their soul mates. without a soul mate the marriage would not last. Generally people are obsessed and do not try to see what their mate is all about they learn about their mate the hard way. After getting married

Answer 8

,Peoples brain chemistry change over time.People have to work on getting to know the people in their life.Having a true friendship is knowing all about someone and liking them anyway. Each person in a relationship has to bring something to the table. Being in a relationship is hard work and a lot of people do not want to do the work that is necessary to achieve a lasting relationship; therefore, a lot of relationships fail. I think this goes for friends and lovers.

Answer 9

Well some people wont get divorced no matter how miserable they are. The people on marriage #2 obviously arent like that, or they would still be married to their first spouse, so, when things go south, they get divorced and get on with their lives.

Answer 10

Yes I did know that, and it's really sad that the divorce rate is that hight for couples who divorce for the first time. If people would quit thinking of themselves so much and would think more about their partner and their partners feelings and needs, I think we wouldn't have such high divorce rates that we do.