I'm 24 years old, and I've been married to my husband for three years now. We love each other very much, but the problem is that i have a low sex drive. the only time I feel like having sex is around my period; so basically about 1 to 4 times a month. is there anything I could do to improve our sex life? PLEASE HELP ME!!!
2006-10-29 15:00:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go to the doctor because u may have sycological problem from sex rather than physical one
2006-10-29 15:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low sex drive can be 1-100 different things. If you have put on weight and or are on new med's. Something that has happened -stress is a big player on women, trust me men do not understand. There answer- WHAT time of the month again. Well just to let you know dr. visit is one of the answers. But if something has changed in your life lately. New job, mother in law, (Ha-Ha little joke to make you smile).. my problem was hormonal and weight gain. I lost the little extra pounds and took care of the woman thing. Start smart, think what has been happing say in the last 6-9months that is different. weight, work, home, it adds up. make a list. take to the doctors, the two of you can work out what is going on. So until then just hang in there. Plus talk to your husband and let him know what is going on so he does not think the wrong thing. Tell him- I LOVE YOU MAN!
good luck.
2006-10-29 16:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by SAMMIE JO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See its little complex, but i'll try to explain. Unlike men who can indulge in sexual activity at any time with any member of the opposite sex if they are aroused, women take time to get into the sexual mood. For them it is more of an emotional issue than a physical one. You are saying that your husband and u are deeply in love...but i think u must look deeper in your relationship for any unresolved issues or problems bugging your mind which u r unable to discuss with your husband for whatever reasons. Just check for how long u have been feeling like that and has there been a change in your lifestyle or pattern or your equation with your husband..
Believe me a bad sex life is a reflection of something being wrong somewhere else in your relationship.
Ofcourse going to doctor is also a logical step to take because in such cases u need some help medical or otherwise.
2006-10-29 15:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by zaetta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try experementing with your husband. Concentrate and focus your mind when making love. If possible be open to each other and talk to with him while making love how both of you satisfy one another sexually by reaching multiple organsms or climaxes until both of you exhaustedly..
If nothing enhances your sex drive, I suggest you try making fantacies in your love making until such time you want a higher level of fantacies by doing it reallity. If nothing improve, try making love with other guy you will know if you have still low sex drive, but do not get permission from your husband he might punch your pretty faces.
2006-10-29 15:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there are lots of herbal supplements that could help you improve your sex drive, like ginseng root and things like that (ask your local pharmacist). also, things like stress and your diet could be playing a huge role in your sex life.
another thing that you could have completely looked over, is that since you and your husband have been married for so long.... you could have lost your "spark". you could have basically lost interest in having sex.. with HIM... try rekindling this spark by doing sexy things, that are unrelated to the act of sex itself... like leaving eachother steamy messages, or giving him a hot kiss before he jets off to work.
try to heat things up outside the bedroom, and see how you react
2006-10-29 15:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by LebaneseLili 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your hormones are out of whack. Make a Dr. appt. It could be your birth control. They have things on the market for woman's libido, ask your Dr. about that option. Buy some porn (if you like that), get a kama sutra book, get your mind flowing. You will be just fine :)
2006-10-29 15:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 24yr old woman should be having periods of acute horniness..lol.. it could be lots of things you probably should talk to a Dr about it...there are a lot of things they can do to help you...also you might try spicing up your life with some porn movies or sex toys.........
2006-10-29 15:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are on birth control, this could be the problem! Concider changing. If not, Try watching some porn togeather....That always helps.
2006-10-29 15:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by gobengal1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him BJs. He will love that. Do it more often even if you really do not feel horny. You can also see a doctor.
2006-10-30 05:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vitamins ? shell fish ? wine ? romance?Dr Phill
2006-10-29 15:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Mudd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋