advantages or disadvantages of living together before marriage?

Answer 1

Advantage for you because you get to see if it's something you want for the rest of your life. Disadvantage....will he buy the cow if he's getting the milk for free?

Answer 2

Great Q... Ive been married twice and ive lived with a couple of guys at different times, im pretty old, im 44 so its not like ive been doing all this as a young person, but anyway, the advantages in my opinion are you get to really know eachother, its easy for you both to be on your good behaviour while youre not living together, but the real person isnt so easily hidden when all the realities of paying bills, doing housekeeping, dishes, laundry etc hit home...... Iv always said "you never know someone until u live with them"
On the other hand it is a lot more fun not living together coz they dont get to see you tired, first thing in the morning when u probably can look ur worse, u have gaps between being together and thats better i think coz then you have time to miss and appreciate eachother. Its fun getting all made up nice just for them and then it gets exciting when youre waiting for them to come over and stuff. you also have 2 different places to be together not just the house you share etc. if his friends come over or hez in a bad mood you can go home, oh!! and you dont have to clean up after him or do all the chores if its his place, when u live together the majoritry of all the mundane stuff usually becomes your responsibility............good luck, i hope yuz make the right decision that suits u both and it works out 4 yaz!!!

Answer 3

Advantage: You know what you are getting into! You get to see the other persons annoying habits (toothpaste all over the sink, dishes in the sink, unmade bed - or the opposite, someone who is anal about a clean house). It's some what of a test drive to see if you are compatible living companions.

Disadvantage: Depending on how you were raised, such as religion - some religions are clear you do not live together prior to marriage. If you do wait I think it puts a sort of "make it work" attitude on the living situation. You are already married to the person, so you just make the choice to deal!

So to test drive, or not....lol

Answer 4

Personally, that is not something I would ever have done, I only wanted to be married before I lived with a man. I wanted that commitment and everything has worked out wonderfully, 17 years going on strong.
From people I know in my circle of friends, from work buddies, and from reading stuff on Answers here, I see the heartache that mostly comes from women who live with a guy. The guys seem to be totally comfortable in the arrangement, and why wouldn't they? But the women always are wondering why the guy isn't asking him to marry her after they live together for a while, and especially if they have children together when living together. I think putting the cart before the horse is not a good idea, but that is just my personal opinion.

Answer 5

The advantages are myriad- it's like taking a car for a test drive for a few months (or years) before telling the dealership you'll take it.

When couples are "dating", you're often not witness to habits and/or rituals that your prospective mate practices. Sure, you may spend a night or two at his or her place, and you've figured out that he or she doesn't snore, or that they're grumpy in the morning.

However, living with your potential partner reveals much more- cleaning habits, tidiness (or lack thereof)- in other words- you end up getting to know your mate.

Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment; do you not think it makes sense to know what you're getting into?

The only disadvantage is that you will have the disapproval of conservative minded persons, and persons who don't believe a bride should have sex with her husband (or her wife) until she's married.

Again, how are you supposed to know if it's going to be good or not unless you try before you buy?

In all seriousness, I know people who have lived together prior to becoming married and I know people who have not.

I don't think either is right or wrong- they both made certain they knew their partners inside and out before they got married.

Answer 6

Disadvantages - nothing new, a wedding ceremony is just an occasion and since you've done everything before...what's the point in getting married!
Advantages - can't think of any!

Answer 7

It depends.
Some people can live together and really benefit from it. Like getting to know each other , getting a routine going, and saving some money before the marriage.
Some people may not because they may find out they don't like each other so well, may have habits that can't be tolerated, or may get so comfortable living together that they will never commit to marriage.
It really just depends on each couple.

Answer 8

Advantage: you get to know the person and what makes him/her tick. Gives you a heads up as to what to expect.
Disadvantage: If its not what you expect and didnt work out then you just wasted your time. Precious time lost that you could of spent looking for Mr./Ms. Right.

Answer 9

Advantage is you really get to know each other. Its definitely the right thing to do. Its preperation for marriage. You are both then able to know if this is who you want to spend the rest of the life with. I mean its alot better to try on a pair of jeans before buying them, ya dont want to have to change them. Right?!

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