MY FRIEND IS 14 AND HAS A 9 MONTH OLD BABY.HER BABY'S DAD IS IN JAIL AND NOW SHE'S LIVING WITH HIS NEPHEW AS A COUPLE. THE THING IS THAT HER BABY'S DAD IS SOPOSELY COMING OUT SOON AND SHE IS PLANING GOING BACK WITH HIM AFTER SHE WAS IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.HIS NEPHEW IS A REALLY GOOD MAN HE'S ONLY 15 AND SUPPORTING HER AND HER BABY:HE'S COMPLETELY RAISING HER BABY AS A DAD. AFTER HER BABY'S DAD COMES OUT SHE THINKS EVERYTHING IS GOING 2 CHANGE OR LETS SAY SHE'S GOING 2 LIVE A HAPPY LIFE TOGETHER. SHE HASN'T THOUGHT OF HOW MUCH SHE IS GOING 2 HURT HIS NEPHEW CUZ HE LOVES HER AND THE BABY WITH ALL HIS HEART. THAT'S WHAT PISSES ME OFF THAT SHE'S GOING 2 LEAVE A GOOD MAN JUST 2 GO WITH HER BABY'S DAD AND LIVE A BAD LIFE WITH HIM.OH HER BABY'S DAD DOESN'T HAVE A CLUE OF WHAT'S GOING ON WITH HIS NEPHEW AND HIS GURL. OMG..BUT I FEEL LIKE WRITTING A LETTER 2 HER BABY'S DAD AND TELLING HIM WHAT GOING ON BEHIND HIS BACK. I JUST DON'T WANT 2 C HIS NEPHEW GET HURT. WHAT SHOULD I DO
2006-10-29 14:50:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well i know her and i think she's daum u should send him a letter cuz once she tells u her problem it's considered ur problem also. I would cuz i don't want to see his nephew hurt cuz of her actions he loves both of them to much and who knows what would happen if she left him. so go ahead she deserves it she shouldn't get involve with a guy and then want to leave him for javier. Sorry but she spreads like butter fast and easy. i weather lose a friend then to see on hurt.
2006-10-29 15:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful Fat Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, tell your friend to think of the baby, because the baby is the most important thing to think about.
Second, try to talk some sense into your friend. Tell her the truth! Tell that you think she will make a mistake by going back with her baby's daddy because nothing is going to change.
I don't think you should write a letter to the guy though, just give you opinion and stay out of it. Try to support your friend in whatever she decides to do and make sure she always thinks of her baby first. She's a mom now and she has important responsibilities.
Another thing she might try is NOT being with anyone at all. She's an independent woman! She's doesn't need no man hanging around giving her problems!
2006-10-29 14:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by fidget0144 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
writing a letter to the baby's father will not save his nephew from being hurt. The baby's biological father has his rights, but it is the girl who needs the wake up call here. If she has a good guy in the nephew and is willing to give him up for a louse, then she is stupid. The louse is just gonna drag her and her baby down, she is lucky to have found someone that loves her and is willing to do for her and her baby. If she is to stupid to realize that, then she deserves what she gets, the one I feel sorry for is the baby. A pure innocent in it all, and has a parent who is putting their needs be for those of the baby and giving the baby nothing of a future to look forward to.
2006-10-29 14:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is be supportive to your friend when she needs you but otherwise you should stay out of their love triangle. It will cause even more confusion if you write the imprisoned man a letter. It may upset your friend that you interfered. If you want to write a letter, write one to your friend subtly giving her your opinion and your shoulder if she needs it
2006-10-29 14:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by 07jaggrad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I admire that you care so much for your friend, but it is her life, and who know what really lies ahead. One thing for sure, if you go telling the abusive boyfriend that your friend with his baby is cheating and lying on him, you will fuel his anger and they all could be in danger when he gets out/
You could try to get your friend to talk to someone at a Woman's Shelter; they are familiar with the personalities of abusive guys, and it won't sound like you are lecturing her.
Bottom line, it is her choice, she is your friend, just be loyal and be her friend,,,,,don't try to run her life/ or you will be cut out of it/
2006-10-29 15:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make your own mistakes to learn better. You have to give the dad a chance for the by....but if thay both love her then thay will wait for her.....but honestly, if she;s not STUPID, she'll stay wid the nephew.
2006-10-29 14:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by gangsterfied_holly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it..It's her life and interferring could start a whole new problem putting you in the middle of it..
2006-10-29 14:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mind your own business your friend isn't going to listen and everyone will end up getting mad at you in the end it is sad but they have to live there own lives it is hard to stand by and watch i know i have been there
2006-10-29 14:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by tristy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As much as i know you don't want to hear this,you need to mind your business,you have nothing to do with it and she has to live her own life.
2006-10-29 14:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. The dude might get mad at you for telling him.
2006-10-29 14:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋