It's my little brother's daughter, and his wife passed away a few years ago. My niece is now 12 and since I'm the only adult female in her life that she can talk to, I was wondering if I would be totally out of place to tell her just what she needs to know for now.
She's asked me a few questions about that earlier, but I just try to avoid it for right now..... Should I ask my brothers permissino before I tell her anything??
I feel that she should get the REAL facts from someone that knows something about it, and someone that she can trust, and not from just some friend or an older girl at her school. I just want some advice........
Please and Thank You.
2006-10-29 14:48:55 · 33 answers · asked by *~aMy~* 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You for sure have to ask her dad. maybe between the two of you, you can decide together what would be appropriate to tell her and when. Good Luck!
2006-10-29 14:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica_Bessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,i must say it is very wonderful that you are being a rolemodel and an adult female figure for her.I would speak to her father first,and bring up casually that she has been asking about "the birds and the bees".Tell him that she may feel a little more comfortable with it coming from a female rather than her father.I am sure that he will not mind,but make sure he knows before you do so,as it is his daughter and ultimately he decides as im sure you understand.Just keep avoiding it for the moment and when you get a chance to speak to your little brother alone,bring it up.Good luck hun,and have a wonderful night!
2006-10-29 14:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your brother. He should know that she is asking and is ready. I'm sure he'd like you to talk to her if you are willing to do so. It might be easier for him also. There aren't too many dads that want to have this talk with their daughters. Besides, if she doesn't already, she should be getting her period soon and should know what can happen. Better to get the information from a family member (adult) than from a friend who might make "stuff" sound like a good idea or not a big deal.
2006-10-30 02:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by msr9805 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely ask her father before talking to her. This is a good time for her to learn the facts of life from an older and more experienced female influence, but it's up to her father to determine when it's right for her to know. Chances are he'll say it's ok, but it's better to be safe and ask than to be sorry and just tell her.
2006-10-29 16:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your the only woman figure she has in her life and if she feels that the questions she is asking you would be awkward for her to ask her father then i think you should tell her, dont let her make a mistake bye asking some one who would give her the wrong idea about it, i think u should talk to her and let her know she can trust you and she can allways talk 2 u.
2006-10-29 14:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your brother if he would mind you answering the questions his daughter asked you. Being her aunt shouldn't stop you from helping her. A lot of men don't know how to talk to their daughters about intimate things especially if their wives are no longer around. He may also be still grieving, and not know how to help her. I would approach him, (gently, mind you) and he'll probably be grateful to you and hand his daughter over to you for some good advice.
Good luck, love!
2006-10-29 16:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your situation, I would sit down with my brother and explain the issue. With his OK, I would answer her questions and explain fully what she wants to know. At 12, in today's schools, she's already exposed to some really adult thinking kids. There is a potential for her to get in some bad situations if she is not smart about sex.
2006-10-29 14:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by llewintx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask permission from your brother first. I think you should only answer what she ask's you, because she might not be ready for the whole story yet. They also offer it in school, my daughter is 11 and has had the class, I just answered any follow-up questions.. Good Luck.
2006-10-29 14:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to the dad first to see if its alright than if its alright with him then go for it because if she 12 she needs to learn it from a adult as soon as possible or else she will learn the wrong facts at school. If Its not ok with the dad then you need to tell him to tell her and tell him the reasons why its imporntant some parents are extremly shy on those situtions
2006-10-30 10:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wonderful she has you to lean on as she is facing a difficult growing up time in her life. My opinion is you should talk to your brother about the situation and then offer to talk with her with his permission. Then you know you are telling her in way that has his approval. You also know you are building a strong bond between you and your brother and your niece.
2006-10-29 15:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her legal guardian first, but if he says no do it anyway. That girl needs to know. it would be best if you get his permission though. make him understand why she needs to know and that it is best for her to hear it from you or some other trusted adult. If she is already asking you let her know that you are a good source of facts and that sometimes myths get spread around.
2006-11-02 15:06:44 · answer #11 · answered by silverwolf872005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋