I know the big thing is about confidence these days and everyone has to be really confident but I've just never wanted to be that way. I mean i don't want to hate myself but I don't want to be too confident or extroverted. I feel like people like me better the way I am, quiet and introverted and un opinionated and that makes me feel good about myself. I also feel like if I'm too confident I say stupid things without thinking, where as if I am se;f-conscious I avoid it. Does anyone else feel this way?
2006-10-29 14:34:23 · 11 answers · asked by leena 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think this is relative. If you lack confidence (as I believe most people do) then you will desire more confidence.
If you are over confident, you may need LESS confidence, but not realise it because you are so confident in the way that you are.
It sounds to me like you have acheived "confidence nirvana" which is where I would love to be. It's a perfect balance between conceitedness and paranoia!
2006-10-29 16:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence doesn't necessarily mean you have to be loud and extroverted. If you feel good about your quite unopinionated self, then thats all the confidence you need. Being self conscious is a good thing. I like you hate it when I say stupid things. I've learned that a lot of the time it's better to keep your mouth shut. I think that if you feel confident in yourself, then that's all that matters. You don't need to conform to what society says. It's all about how you feel about yourself and if you like yourself.
2006-10-29 14:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have a lot of growing up to do and there is not a thing wrong with that stay where you feel comfortable but some times it is fun to venture out
2006-10-29 14:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! People like you make other people feel very confident.
2006-10-29 17:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by reddhottmagmma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very confident in your "unconfidence." The way you describe yourself is more than confidence. It is intelligence. Quiet confidence is the best kind.
2006-10-29 14:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by papricka w 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 04:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by yarrington 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your trying to hard to be the world pleaser. Do things for yourself,be comfortable with yourself. Trust me when your focus is on making your life happy and not so much of what others think it will all fall into place.
2006-10-30 03:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by milo2angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what the "big thing is"? You have to be happy in your own skin....it takes all kinds of people to make the world work and what you may be like now may change in the future....Be happy.
2006-10-29 14:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that more people feel that way then you think. If your satisfied with yourself thats great not many can say that.
2006-10-29 14:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by thmsnbrgll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have this, it's called your CONSCIENCE, just don't say this stuff out loud.
2006-10-29 14:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by spir_i_tual 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋