I don't feel like I am a good at group mentality, so I don't really feel comfortable with protesting for gay rights, transgender/sexual rights, etc. Am I am odd ball if I don't? It's sort of like a black or asian or any minority that doesn't support their own kind... or something detached like that. I really don't FEEL for gay rights, I guess. I mean, I feel for INDIVIDUALS who i know and like, but I don't support all gay rights under one umbrella? If I were lesbian, should I be all cheerleader for gay right?
2006-10-29 14:18:47 · 14 answers · asked by summation 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What?! Give me back your lesbian membership card! And we're taking away your free toaster! Just kidding.
No. I totally feel you on this one. I think it's just like ANY group of people. We have our good and we have our not so good. I don't want to support the bad in an umbrella way either just because they claim an identity similar to my own. I will support individuals, but not a group. As a group, I feel the gay community still has a long way to go. We are still seen by the heterosexual community and other groups as being wild, promiscuous, pushy, and a lot of other negative things. I don't want to support THOSE people. I DO want to support my fellow glbt brothers and sisters that want to promote awareness, and get involved politically, and make changes. I don't think those changes are going to happen from the bars and getting drunk and making an *** out of yourself every weekend. Some may feel I'm stereotyping the gay community, but I know I'm not. I'm speaking the truth. There are those that agree with me, and act virtuous, responsible, and feel similar to the ways I do. To THOSE people, I'd be glad to stand with you and support you.
I know PLENTY of people that feel just like you. They're gay and lesbian, but don't feel the need to go waving rainbow flags in everyone's faces. It's a personal thing between them and the people they love. They know who they are, and they don't feel the need to go screaming it to the world.
2006-10-29 14:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it would be a great help, but it isn't a requirement to be gay. There's a lot of GLBT people out there that do nothing, and some that just show up to party at pride, and then there are also the bad apples that hurt our community's image. Just do who you want, and if you feel up to it, help the community whenever you can. You might change your attitude, goddess forbid, the first time a man tries to "convert you" against your will, or your employer fires you because "dykes aren't good for the company's image." We're still a long way from being completely accepted and being equal citizens.
2006-10-30 05:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some, defending those rights is the principle of the thing. "I'm different, but equal, so I should have access to the same thing as everyone else." For others, it's one of those things that really doesn't affect you until you come into a situation where you want access to a right and it's being denied you. Say you're a lesbian, and you finally meet "THE ONE"...the girl you want to spend the rest of your life with and marry her, but Mr President won't give you the right to marry her or be in the emergency ward with her should she be in a life-threatening accident. Would that inspire you to want those rights and make you support the cause? Until that becomes a possibility, those rights probably just won't mean much to you.
2006-10-29 22:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess it all comes down to what is really important to you. if you are a lesbian and don't mind being treated as a lower class citizen or lower class person then caring about gay rights shouldn't be a high priority for you. if your not a lesbian and just don't want to spend the time and energy to support those that are ( maybe a friend or family member is still in the closet) then that is also your prerogative, just keep in mind that by not supporting gay rights your indifference may unintentionally hurt some one close to you
2006-10-29 22:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't really have to be an advocate for gay rights, even if you're a lesbian. You just do what you want to do. But it would be greatly appreciated if you would not bash at your fellow gays as well. Coz that would be the lowest level of hypocrisy. So, in your case, it would be best to just live and let live. Unless, of course, it would be your rights that would be trampled on. That would be another story. And it would be totally up to you if you defend your rights, or that of your partner, or not.
2006-10-29 22:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you don't have to support the cause. But if you had a backbone you would. Some people let others do the work, while reaping the benefits. You're just too above it all.
You can do whatever you please, but I have little regard for you or your attitude.
2006-10-29 22:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whatever makes you happy, you dont have to advocate for anyone, be your own person, dont feel pressured to support anyone or anything... be a proud lesbian if u wish but dont push it down anybody elses throat, therz enough people around doing that kind of thing. just live and let live, be happy, be content with who you are and what youve got, thats the secret to happiness.
2006-10-29 22:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by genieejj 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you don't have to support gay rights...but it's sorta like voting...if you don't vote then you don't have the right to complain if things don't turn out for you.
2006-10-29 22:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a free country, you can be and do as you feel. A bunch of lesbians are not going to tar and feather you if you aren't a cheerleader. ;o)
2006-10-30 09:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by golden oldy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything you don't want to. Not all members of a minority campaign for their minority's rights.
Just be true to you. That's really all that matters.
2006-10-29 22:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋