Does Anyone Think There is a Between Space from straight and Gay?

Question

Ok I was Watching a Tyra Banks Show I Recorded on Oct, 26th last Thursday and there was a group of six girls broken into two 3 were saying they were straight and like to kiss girls or bi and three were saying they were gay and called the other three whores. I was really ticked off at the lesbians because I am Bisexual I am equally attracted to women and men but have made a life with my husband I totally support the gay world and feel if I was to start a relationship with a woman I would tell her that I am bi I like to have sex with woman but prefer to be with a man what are your takes on this matter and why does most people act like there can't be a middle hello why did we come up with the word Bisexual?

Answer 1

How did we ever come up with the idea that there is no middle ground..you are either gay or straight/ black or white...there doesn't ever seem to be any middle ground...people seem to need to be able to put people in little slots with labels on them.

Answer 2

It's a question that many argue over. For many people, bisexuality is used rather as a middle ground on the way to being gay. These are the people who are still not totally at home with the idea of their sexuality being something so normally frowned upon by society. They refer to themselves as bi, however in a few years they will eventually come to terms with who they are.

Then there are those who are merely sexually interested in their same sex. They may be sexually ambivilant, not caring about same sex/different sex. I'm not sure if these people are actually bisexual. Perhaps they are the real bi's of the world? Perhaps they should be labeled as something else?

Then there are those who date both, have relationships with both, have sex with both, etc. This is what is generally thought of as bisexual. My mother refers to this type as either "unable to make up their bloody minds" or "just trying to have the best of both worlds". I find myself increasingly confused as to whether or not to agree with her (a tiny part of me thinks perhaps she's right) or to think something else.

Conclusion: Bisexuality if far to confusing a subject to even think about. My advice: Don't.

Answer 3

There is an in between space (bisexuality), but we live in a society obsessed on labels such as 'are you this or that?'. This leads to perceptions that come across as 'If you are not straight, you must be gay' and vice-versa. It is not only sexual identity, but children with parents of different races are pressured to choose which race thay are. It is easier for people to categorize people than take the time to actually get to know someone. With the rise in technology and the evolution into the 'internet age' everything seems to be broken down into demographics to define an individual and most people don't want to be defined by the label at the bottom of the list where it says "other".

Answer 4

I definitely think there's LOTS of space between straight and gay. I think (though I didn't see the show, so I'm just going on what you printed) that the lesbians were a little pissed off that these girls identified as straight and were making out with girls. Such behavior is A)unfair and misleading to the other girls
B)Seen as a terrible exploitation, and indeed trivializing to the bisexual experience when done simply to tittilate men.
It's looked down upon both for this trivializing, and also as a very...not-so-feminist thing to do.

That's the reasons I can think of.

Answer 5

For many years homosexuality was hidden and considered taboo, however I feel in Australia where i live bi-sexuality became very popular in the 1980s. All around me young people began to experiment with crossing the gender boundaries etc. Im 44 and ive never had a gay relationship , however my best friend is gay and we get along just great. shez never tried anything on me, id feel pretty weird if she did and it could harm our relationship so i hope she never does, but just coz shez gay doesnt mean i cant love her heaps, i just dont express my sexual side with / to her... people shouldnt hate eachother becoz theyre different. live and let live, thats what i say................happy love to ya!!

Answer 6

i think labels are not helpful, no one should live in a little box. bisexuals get a bad rap because most (not all :) have cheated and hurt a lot of people. i would never be with someone bi, i can compete with another man, but not a woman. to me it's playing with fire, and i'll be the one to get burned. thats my personal feelings, but thats me. i completely support everyones right to be with whom they choose, and to live their life as they see fit. but i think alot of people feel as i do, you have alot of insecurity when you start dating anuway and jelousy (we all do) bisexuality compounds that for alot of people, theres no safe ground at all. and when you're scared you lash out (basic human trait.....unfortunately) i hope all this rambling is coherent lololol

Answer 7

those three lesbians were as guilty as any straight person who defames homosexuals. some day we will live in a world where people are free to be who they are without the rest of society feeling the need to stereotype,pigeon hole, and lable every one.
any way if you feel you are "bi sexual" then just be happy being who you are AND DONT LET OTHER PEOPLE TRY AND MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE LESS OF A PERSON FOR IT.

Answer 8

Yeah, there's a space, and a lot of the time it's called the closet.

Honestly, stfu and stop your whining. You're married. You and your husband have the same rights and privileges as heterosexuals. To the world, you are heterosexual, unless you insist on discussing your attraction to women. (And honestly, I get with the straight people on this one. WHO CARES? YOU'RE MARRIED. I DON'T WANT TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL FANTASIES. IT'S YOUR BUSINESS.)

You chose to marry a man, and that's really ok. But you and your husband don't have to worry about being physically attacked if someone sees you walking arm in arm. In fact, you really don't have to worry about any of the garbage that gay people have to put up with.

When I meet bisexuals who make life time commitments to someone of the same gender, instead of getting all the perks that heteros get, I guess that is the sort of bisexual I would take seriously.

Not to mention, that you're a bisexual FEMALE. Good lord, bisexual females are practically celebrities. You get a free ride, and still you whine.

Get the f*uck over it. Do whatever the hell you want to and call yourself bisexual, middle ground, or whatever you please. JUST STOP THE WHINING.

Answer 9

I am also bi and married a man, so I think I see your point. People just close their minds to new things so to them we are whores or whatever. Don't let them get to you, most of them just say it to follow the crowd or are probably still in the closet.

Answer 10

You should see the movie Kinsey. Very good movie baised on a true story. It explains what peeks our sexual interest and developed the Kinsey scale.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale
Check it out!