I been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years.He has not been pressing me to have sex. but we flirt alot. I really love him And i'm still a vigin and so is he.Should i give him my virginity to him Because i want to but my religion say i can't before marriage. But i can't wait anymore. What should i do?
2006-10-29 14:01:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to decide if you really want to have sex before marriage, that needs to be a choice that you make. Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship, trust me. Don't throw your morals away because of it. If you really love him and decide this is the best choice for you, then go for it. Just be safe and smart about it.
2006-10-29 14:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by sweetpeaberry42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too was taught to wait until I was married. I REALLY wish I would've. I actually slept with my b/f when I was 19. We had been friends for a few years and had been together for close to a year. Needless to say, none of that mattered. I ended up getting pregnant, we got married, and a year later he was having an affair and we were getting divorced.
I can't tell you what to do, but the first thing I'd suggest would be to discuss this with your b/f. Does he have the same religious beliefs? If so, maybe he isn't pressuring you because he wants to wait. The one thing I would not to do is have sex with him because you think that's what he wants. If he loves you, as much as you love him, he won't mind waiting.
However, if this is something your insistant on doing - please protect yourself. Make an appt with family planning and get started on some method of b/c. If your comfortable talking to your parents, I would also suggestion talking to them.
2006-10-29 22:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not pressuring you, he either understands that you don't want to have sex before you get married, or he's cheating on you. Either way, I would stick to being a virgin. My best friend was in the same situation you are in. She lost her virginity so her long time boyfriend and then got her heart broken. He jad been cheating on her for months. Then she gave in to temptation. He found out the girl he had been cheating with got pregnant and left my best friend for his floozy. I say WAIT. Please wait. Not to sound weird or anything, but there's always being with yourself. If it's that bad, that's what I would do if I were you. Sex isn't so great that you can't wait until marriage. I don't want to start anything between you and your boyfriend either. I'm just telling you what I know about a similar situation.
2006-10-29 22:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by Desperate for Answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't compromise what your religion tells you, or it was never that important to begin with. Run off to Vegas and get married and get it on. If not, plan that dream wedding now and hold off. Who knows, you could give it up and still get married someday but would you tell your kids to hold off and not do it till they are married when you couldn't wait??? Or just go get married already and have a good time. Those are your choices . . .
2006-10-29 22:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him then go ahead but i say wait because you don't know if he is ready. Just because he flirts doesn't mean that he is ready. Talk to him and see what he thinks about the whole situation
2006-10-29 22:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by C aka baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know your religion says you cant before marriage because i have the same religion but if youve been dating him 2 years well then you no i think it isnt bad but that is just me!
2006-10-29 22:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by courtney5839 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What will religion do to you?
Go for it, but make sure you really believe he will pop the question... In fact I think it will boost the ability for him to ask it.
2006-10-29 22:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait. it sounds as if you're really young. hold on to your virginity once you give it away you can't get it back. if your boyfriend really loves you then he'll be okay with your decision to wait.
2006-10-29 22:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on which means more to you...your boyfriend or your religion...
2006-10-29 22:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by b_blanket119 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mm..depends on ur age..for me i wouldnt want to regret shiet that i did..like take a girls virginity..but if ur sure bout u two together..then..go ahed..ask him bout it
2006-10-29 22:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by itstony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋