I'm 13 years old and she treats me like a baby. I have to be honest, I'm probably not the greatest daughter (I've done some rotten things to her), but how do I fix this before she ruins my life!
Do I have to listen to her?!?!?
2006-10-29 13:45:54 · 15 answers · asked by leelou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is an adult and you should listen to her.. like you would a teacher or any other adult in your life. quit fighting it... it only makes the whole thing long and more painfull for BOTH of you. maybe she treats you like a baby because she doesnt know you very well. Ask to spend time with her on a regular basis, go shopping, to the park, bake cookies, take the dog for a walk.... what ever. It will give you two a chance to get to know each other.. like she and your dad did only they called it dating. My step son put my husband and I through h*ll and it wasnt untill last year that my husband realized that he was being played by his son.. dont be the horrible step child... and she wont be the horrible step parent. Shes not trying to ruin your life, she is taking on a big responsibility marrying a man with a family.. she has to be responsible for someone elses child! give her a break and get to know her.
2006-10-29 13:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by grapelady911 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
U r 13 yrs. old, a rough time in life usually. At this age ur hormones r all messed up and out of whack and u r feeling ur oats. U think u know everything and u don't want to hear it from anybody u don't respect, especially a nosy grown-up who isn't even ur step-mother yet. She sees u as u r, a youngster who doesn't know better. If u really want to earn her trust and get better with her give her the respect she deserves as an adult ur father's future wife and one of ur future parents. Whether u like it or not she will be an influence in ur life whether u want her to be or not. So make the best of it make friends with her and keep her in ur back pocket for when u really need her. She can be ur best friend or ur worse nightmare it's all up to u. The burden lies on ur small shoulders. Be the upcoming adult and do the right thing u know what that really is don't u?
2006-10-29 21:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, try to listen to her and smile to her often. It is better to have long talk with your dad and tell him that you are sorry but you are big enough now and that you would prefer to be told to do anything by him, at least in the beginning, until you can warm up to your mom. Tell him that you are uncomfortable with the idea of losing him to this lady and that is why you reacted in this manner. Tell him that you promise that if you have a meeting with him and your soon-tobe mom about the family rules and that they are ready to let you bargain on some of them or at least explain to you, why they have been placed, you will follow them but if he or new mom thinks that you are going overboard again, he should be the one to come to your first. In the meeting, tell them both that you are really sorry for doing things to her that you should have done but you are not yet ready to accept her as a mom and will prefer her to react to you more as an adult caretaker and friend and you will try to sort out your emotions too. Control your emotions and actions from now on. The change in you and serious talks may make your parents believe that you are really ready to cooperate with them and that may mean more freedom for you. Since you cannot control the situation, take a backseat for now and try to be happy for your dad. The best deal that you can get at the moment is to avoid her being nasty to you, so try for it before you lose this opportunity.
2006-10-30 03:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start by apologizing for the rotten things you did. And be sincere. Then tell her you want to get along and talk about how you can both achieve that. Keep in mind she is an adult and will have a part in disciplining you until you are 18. But also remember she wouldnt bother if she didnt care.
2006-10-29 21:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Give her a chance. She is new at this. You have to treat her with respect if you want her to treat you like a 13 yo. If you've done some rotten things, you need to make up for them.
2006-10-29 21:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to try to work things out with her. Just try being friends with her. See if you can come up with one or two things that you like about her and focus on that. If she's treating you like a baby & she does not have kids of her own maybe she just doesn't know how to deal with kids and this is a learning process for her. Help her out by TALKING to her & not argueing or fighting.
2006-10-29 22:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I've been a step-daughter and a step-mother now and I think that it's important to be honest in whatever you say to your step-mom and I think it's especially important that you talk to your dad AND your step-mom about whatever problems you might be having.
I had problems with my step-dad and it really just took some honest communication to help uncomplicate the situation.
2006-10-29 21:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by scarlet_fever8 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be showing her respect. If you really want to fix things between you, you should sit her down and talk with her. Tell her what you think, what you feel. Just try and keep the attitude in check during your talk.
2006-10-29 21:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
come on you're only 13 as I'm sure your soon 2 b step mom are not going to tell you anything wrong!!! use your head about this be nice to her, and I'm sure she will be nice to you also. so calm down, she's not your real mom and you really don't have to love her, as much as you love you mom, but you can try to like her okay.
2006-10-29 21:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you don't HAVE to listen to her, but if you really love your father you will try to make everything easy on the house, I know is hard to accept that , but sometimes you have to give a little bit in order for you and everyone else around you to be happy.
2006-10-29 21:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋