My boyfriend and ex-wife spend to muc time on the phone or together. What should i do?

Question

My boy friend and i live together, i think this was a big mistake but, him and his ex-wife are constantly an the phone or he is at her house. He says he does not love her but if she yells jump, he does. I think he is more commited to her than me. What should i do? Call it quits or as his sister and mine says, wait. Give it time. I have told him how i feel about this and he lets it go over his head like i said nothing.

Answer 1

Before I start, I read your later questions regarding the situation with your boyfriend. There are some men who do carry guilt over a divorce situation even if they filled for divorce, and it can haunt future relationships to a degree. He could have some guilt regarding his ex wife's drinking and possibly worries about his son's safety. Heavy drinking and addiction issues can weigh heavily on the relationship. Does he have a set parenting schedule with his ex wife regarding his son? If there is not a written agreement, it could be at her whim and is worried about her cutting off contact with their son. Have you tried asking him more about the situation without getting into an argument? An argument can back someone into a corner and not result in any solid answers regarding the overall situation. If there is no written agreement about his parenting time, encourage him to file with the courts to have a set parenting agreement. Also, see if his sister could give more information about the situation and his marriage because it could give a reason behind why she says give it time. Before you make any decisions about the situation in general, see if he will talk about it.

Answer 2

He should respect you and your decisions and he should not be spending time with her that is why she is his EX-WIFE. You need to tell him really how you feel for the last time and give an ultimatum of either don't spend time with her or you leave or something like that it doesn't have to be that serious but you get what i mean. i know that you will get tired of him doing that because she has already had her chance with him and she blew it! Why does he want to spend time with her any way? Don't let him run over you and do whatever he wants because if he wants to do what he wants then he doesn't need to be in a relationship. Who knows his ex-wife could be laughing at you saying how dumb you are to let him be coming over to her house and stuff. i would not allow it if i was in your shoes. Good Luck and God Bless!