okay i really need someones help i am a lesbian and i havent told anyone yet but i really want to and if i tell my friends they will disown me and so will my some of my family and i wanna know how can i tell them wiht out them getting mad
2006-10-29 13:39:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it needs time to get accepted...i think u should tell them now..straight
2006-10-29 13:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is such a basic part of your nature that there is no one who should get mad over that. Here's how I'd do it. I'd take aside the family member I was closest to. Perhaps this is your mother. In a quiet, private, place, tell her. Tell her how you feel and what you are afraid of. She will be understanding. After you let her know, she can help you coordinate a more public announcement, and she can help keep the others under control. And help you explain to them that this is a part of who you are and that they will love you just the same.
As for your friends, if they disown you, then you accept that they weren't worth a friendship with that very special person, which is you. You did nothing wrong in announcing something about yourself that you cannot change. You are not at fault if they decide to not be your friend. You must remember that it is their fault for not accepting you as you are. That is something a real friend would do--show loyalty and stand by you when you reveal an honest truth about an unchangable feature of yourself. (After all, it's not like you robbed a bank!) Living in the closet sucks and is unhealthy over the long run.
Good luck and I wish you the best!
2006-10-29 13:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are your real friends there should be no way they will disown you. Your family is just going to have to accept it. If not then that will be their loss.
No matter what there will be people in your family who will not be happy, but that will just have to take some time for them to get over.
I wish i could give you more advice on what and how to say it but I don't know you or your family and/or how to approach them. I guess you would have to think about when the best time would be and the way you approach them from past experiences.
I wish you luck, i know it is difficult, but be strong and be yourself!!
2006-10-29 13:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Theresa C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way to do that without making some people shocked or angry.
Although you feel this is who you are, most of society still is unhappy about this lifestyle or inclination that is not in the mainstream.
If your family is loving and understanding and you show them that you are normal in all other ways and loving and caring and decent in all other ways, they will eventually get used to the idea.
2006-10-29 13:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family and friends love you for your personality, compassion, intelligents, etc,...I do not think they will "stop loving you" due to your sexuality. Some people can accept and tolerate this but some cannot. Have you ever heard the saying "Ignorance is bliss?". The best way to hopefully help them understand, is education. Education them on your sexuality.
2006-10-29 13:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by mullicangal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok .it is very nice that u want tell the truth.so go ahead n tell them .if they r ur true friend then thet will b with u.just go to them a say what u r ? n u can do nothing about it
2006-10-29 13:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares lesbians are HOT!
2006-10-29 13:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by honorarydiplomat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋