What should I conclude? Should I ask him more questions? I think maybe he's addicted to sex. He said he would never go through with anything he fantasizes about. If he's just curious, but thinking about dating me, then shouldn't he reconsider what he's doing looking at porn and in chat rooms? He asked me if I wanted to look at 'male porn' with him, and I just didn't know what to say. I really like him, and I don't want to judge him, but how is this going to affect me? I don't want to get burnt or put on the backburner due to his possible 'addiction'/curiosity.
2006-10-29 13:37:11 · 6 answers · asked by Arf 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I always tell myself, "If I have to ask a question like that then I probably shouldn't be a part of it."
You don't need a man who is addicted to sex. You need a man who is addicted to you. I dated and almost married a guy like you are describing. Everything that he did affected me and our relationship because I didn't like male porn or the fact that he liked doing things with other men - whether it was one big fantasy or something he did in reality. It put one big kink in our relationship and that is why we aren't together today. We are still friends, I didn't judge him for who he was, but I couldn't be a part of that. I think that is something you need to ask youself. Do you want to be with a man who is addicted to sex, likes the affection of other men, and wants you to look at male porn even though it is something you don't like?
Hope things work out.
2006-10-29 13:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by gabber1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he might be a sex addict, show him this article, "Addicted to Sex," published in an SF Bay Area newspaper. It profiles three male sex addicts (including a married man who had sex with men) and one woman whose ex was an addict.
LINK: eastbayexpress.com/Issues/2006-10-25/news/feature.html
If the link doesn't work, you can check out eastbayexpressDOTcom. The story is on the top left of the homepage.
Ask him what he thinks. It should at least initiate some good conversation!
Good luck!
2006-10-29 15:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by magwriter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys have something we don't like in them. personally i dont date bi's because if you do go out with them, they might be looking at other guys while you are not looking, but some bis are not like that. But i would reconsider on what kind of porn he is looking at. If bis look at one gender more than the other you can tell on what they like. I hate to break it to you girl, i feel for you but i think he is more on the gay side. another thing, when thinking about dating a guy u got to like them for their faults too, or ur screwed. good luck with it.
2006-10-29 13:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by lady_wolf_sushi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex "addiction"?
BILGEWATER!!!
"bi" means "bye bye"
Doubles your chances of being dumped for somebody else.
Can the psychological crap.
Wants you to watch gay porn with him?
Just say you aren't into it.
Are you young person?
If so, why are you wasting your youth on this sort of crap.
He gonna try to talk you into some situation where he is banging you and some guy cornholing him?
You really into that?
Forget about this confused basketcase and get on with your life.
2006-10-29 14:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just look at gay porn with him. dont judge him, if he likes guys then so what, maybe he will involve you in the fun. if you like him then do it.
2006-10-29 13:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by frediks10 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
subconsciuosly you seem to like him precisely for the things he does. then why are you scared to face the consequences?
2006-10-29 13:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by GAWD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋