Should I wait till im married to lose my virginity?

Question

A lot people say they're going to wait till they are married but im thinking suppose I don't get married.

Answer 1

Here's what you need before you should think about sex:

Independence

A job (with medical benefits)

A home (that you own or rent)

A savings account (with enough money to pay all of your bills for at least one year)

A supportive family (and/or friends)

An education

Some life experience

Why? Because sex, no matter how prepared you think you are to handle it, is emotional. It's also how you get babies, even though you may think you're using protection. If you're willing to accept that you may get pregnant, and you have all of the above, then by all means... have sex. Many women end up in a situation where they have to raise a child alone, and having a child out of wedlock is certainly no exception. Some men leave, some men stay. But is it really worth the risk to lose your virginity if you don't have a solid foundation in place in case you do get pregnant?

Answer 2

What do guys know? What could I tell you that would convince you to wait? You should, but if you are already wondering if you should, more than likely you won't. A question you should ask is, would the man responsible support the baby if indeed your not married. I know you didn't say anything about a baby, but 9 times out of 10 if you don't wait, you will end up pregnant. It is not for anyone to decide but yourself. Why not wait? Is the pressure being turned up by hearing others tell their experiences? It is something that should be sacred between a husband and wife. Be careful in making your decision. WAIT!! You must think about the diseases that are out there. You would not believe how many young people have contracted a STD.

Answer 3

I told my self to wait till i was married when i was in high school and now i'm 19 and in college. I didn't wait. i had sex with my bf we have been together a year now. I think he's a keeper. He was the i was waiting for. So waiting until you get married is the best thing but you never know. Just in case you cant wait make sure that you protect yourself from unwanted pregnancy and STD's.

Answer 4

I'll tell you what i am doing I am almost 21 and still have not had sex I don't think I am going to wait till i get married I am going to wait until I find a guy that treats me right and with respect I hope this helps

Answer 5

I believe if you are going to have sex, you need to enter into it as if you were expecting to get pregnant. No matter how many precautions you take, there is still the possibility of a pregnancy (my mother-in-law got pregnant six years after she had her tubes tied, so, NOTHING is foolproof). If and when you are emotionally, financially, and physically able to provide for a child, then I believe it is fine to have sex. I didn't wait until marriage, but I also did NOT have sex unless I was in a position to care for any possible children without the help of my partner. I was 23, had graduated college, and had a full-time job, housing, etc. when I first had sex. My husband certainly doesn't think any less of me because we had sex before we were married, but we also didn't have sex until we were ready to support a child, if necessary (he's in the military, so, he'd be obligated to provide support whether he wanted to or not). Ultimately, it comes down to how mature you are and how willing you are to accept possible consequences. I have friends who were virgins until they were married (or near virgins; their only partner is their now-husband), others who have had many partners, and most who fall in between. Each person is different, and so, YOU must decide what is best for you.
The one thing I urge you to do is to wait until you have completed your post-high school education, whether that is a four-year degree, trade school, etc. Having a baby before that is done will make your life extremely difficult.

Answer 6

I think you should wait till you are married. Or at least the one that you plan to marry. That is the one you will love. I'm sure he will think the same, WOW a virgin. And that will mean alot more to him and you, maybe not now, but later on during that special romantic love act. So I say, "SAVE IT FOR THE ONE YOU LOVE, AND THE ONE THAT WILL LOVE YOU"

Answer 7

I think it's up to you. If you think you're ready then go ahead, but if you're not then just wait. I thought I was gonna wait til I was married, but I guess that'll never happen. Plus if your religion is important to you then don't do it. Wait as long as you want. You should really wait for that one special person to come into your life.

Answer 8

Having sex is a personal choice, if you feel you are ready to do it then do it without guilt.. but if you want to wait then thats good too.

You dont mention how old you are but unless you're in your 30's and still a virgin I would say wait a bit longer and decide later on what it is you want to do.

Answer 9

I think you are right suppose you never get married I think you should just wait for the right guy and stay with him there are couples that aren't married and they're together I would just stay with one guy and there are ways to prevent pregnancy.

Answer 10

I'm sure you will get married and a big reason to wait if not for religious reasons then for health reasons, both physical and emotional. If you think about it, if you sleep with someone who is not a virgin then you are sleeping with everyone they have slept with and everyone their partners have slept with and so on. You greatly increase you chance of disease and when you sleep with someone you give a small piece of your heart to them. There is always some kind of emotional attachement. I waited until I was married and so did my husband and we have never regretted saving ourselves for marriage. It gives us more of a peace of mind knowing that we are each other's only one. And don't worry about the whole "practice makes perfect" bit. It will come naturally.