my wife is jealous that I work as a bouncer at a strip club. I told her it's just a job. She don't like me working around a bunch of gorgeous women. I even took a lie detector test proving I didn't even sleep with the strippers. And I told her come visit me at work whenever you want and you'll find me standing outside most of the time. So far she hasn't "caught" me yet with having an affair (which I don't plan on having an affair in the first place because I respect my wife and my marriage).
So should I quit my job for my wife or what?
2006-10-29 13:13:25 · 26 answers · asked by bubbalicious 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
My wife is hot.
2006-10-29 13:17:17 · update #1
That decision is up to you and her. If she is a jealous possessive woman, she will worry about any women in your workplace.
2006-10-29 13:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a lot of missing pieces to this picture but I will try to put it together. First of all never quit a job for any reason or for any one until you have a new job to go to.
Secondly, there are quite a few very compelling reasons for you to move on other than your wife's objection. What are you going to do with your life? Being a bouncer in a strip club is not a growth opportunity. I suspect you know it is a dead end job and your post is a plead for help as is your offer to your wife to come see. I am no shrink but it does not take a genius to figure out you know you are in a dead end job and are desperately looking for a reason......any reason.......to get out.
I wish you and your wife well. If you value your future find some better endeavor while you are still young and healthy enough to do so.
2006-10-29 13:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by barrettins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this doesn't sound like a good job for your marriage. And second, you two need to deal with the jealousy factor NOW. B/c it doesn't matter what job you have, she'll be jealous for some reason. Probably a control issue on her part, but maybe you are a flirt. Look into it.
Finally, being a bouncer at a strip club is dumb when you are married. Get a real job. Or, if you live in vegas, work as a dealer instead. Anyway, your job is your job, but your marriage needs work. Good luck!
2006-10-29 13:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband had the same job you do now.
He also said he would never mess with "the girls".
He started staying later...and later...joining in on
after hours pizza and beer parties, and finally
getting to the point of not coming home because
he thought maybe he shouldn't drive. One night,
I caught him with one of the girls. We're divorced now. Guilty or not guilty, my advice would be to figure out
your priorities, and eliminate the possibility of temptation.
and hurting your wife any further, than she already is.
2006-10-29 13:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by persnickety1022 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should quit for the sake of your wife...understand from a "non-slutty" womens point of view - if I had a husband it would drive me crazy knowing that he was seeing other naked women all night...get a job as a bouncer in a large club it might even pay higher
2006-10-29 13:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by true 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and she loves you, you guys should be able to come up with some kind of half way point. She should not expect you to up and quit your job, however, if she feels uncomfortable with the situation, something should be done. I hope that you are in a good enough relationship with your wife to be able to come to some kind of half way point. I see your side but with me being a female myself, I do see her side.
Good Luck!!!
2006-10-29 13:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by a_n_cassell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you kidding.....Not me. You say "she hasn't caught me yet. You call them gorgeous women. Only you know how much you love her and what the meaning of your wedding vows are to the both of you. Would you like your wife working as a ticket taker at a male strip club, and describing them as gorgeous hunks. And what about if she said to you she hasn't made love to any of them "yet" . give us a break my friend. Who are you kidding. I give your marriage 6 months under these conditions...that is if she has any brains. Oh one more thing you insensitive so an so, don't call her Jealous....call her trusting.........don't let her down unless .... you can't help yourself. hmmmmm...............Sounds l ike you've already made your mind up anyways.............and to me it looks like the moral principles are in your pants...........real men step up dude!
2006-10-29 13:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by iamME 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i was gonna say "no" until you described the dancers as "gorgeous." if you feel that way and make comments like that around your wife, then you might be adding to her jealousy and hurting her self-esteem.
but i have known plenty of crazed, jealous women who seem to "want" their men to cheat so they could justify following him around and all that BS.
so, i don't know you, can't give advice, good luck
2006-10-29 13:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you respect your wife, yes you should do it. We all know what nightclubs are notorious for.
Im sure you will feel the same way too if she is working at a nightclub.
2006-10-29 13:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by CamperBoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could surely get another job, its your choice if you want to or not. Respect your wife & she will respect you.
2006-10-29 13:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by dollface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋