i don't know what's wrong with me..?

Question

i'm in highschool...but for some reason, no-one seems to like me. i know...i sound totally paranoid. but it's probably just jealousy. my best friends have been asked out MULTIPLE times by total strangers, but i havent. Guys even come up to ME and ask for my friend's phone #. =O( And that kinda makes me feel terrible about myself. That maybe my personality's weird. Maybe i'm not pretty. Maybe i'm too much of a "friend/guy" to be anything more. idk what to do. and please don't give me dumb answers like "just be yourself". yes..i have tried that thanks. i just need some advice like, i'm not the only one out there or there are ALWAYS secret admirers out there. cuz right now...i feel like changing everything about myself =O(

Answer 1

I was in your shoes once back in high school and I know how you feel. I wish I had some solid advice to give you, but with me I ended up being pretty independent. Meaning that instead of waiting around for someone to ask me out, I started asking people. I decided what I did and didn't like about myself and quit trying to be like my friends and just did my thing. There was more than once where I would go somewhere with friends and end up in a situation without them because they kind of ditched me for some guy or another chick who seemed cooler. I just started to talk to a lot of people and quit following what my friends did. I am sure you are pretty and you don't need to change just to fit in. Find what you like about yourself and flaunt it, even if it is different from what your friends are. Eventually things will come around and you will feel better, just don't concentrate on feeling bad. If some situation doesn't go your way, take action and do something to make it better instead of thinking about how it didn't work out. Enjoy being different, it is normal to want to be like everyone else, but being different is good in the long run - trust me!!! Just hang in there in the meantime - life will get better - take a new look at it!!!

Answer 2

I hope you don't get too paranoid. As we get older, we realize the things we know we should change. It's up to each of us as to what we should do. I'd guess that you don't need to change that much, and that you're a lot like this guy sitting here typing this; just a bit too paranoid for his own good. As long as you're not being totally rude to people, and being a real jerk, try not to worry about it. Just do your best, and as time goes along, you will find your own way. When I was younger, I hated myself, as I thought everyone else did. I still have problems, but I've become my own friend...and that's the best thing you can do.

Answer 3

I doubt anything is wrong with you. That's just high school. I know from experience that some kids are just too shy. I had 3 different guys tell me a couple years after we graduated that they had a crush on me. I had no clue. They said they always felt like they weren't good enough, or were afraid I would say, "No!" I actually would have gone out with all 3 of them if they would have asked. I actually gave up and started asking guys out myself. I had one actually laugh at me. That was a kick to my ego, but I picked myself up, asked a couple more, who said, "yes" and then, the last one I asked who said "yes" I married. I've been married for 17 years.

Answer 4

If the guys you hang around see you as a friend try sprucing up your wardrobe. put on make up and let your friends know that you are "available" and would "love to date that cute guy in math class" you help your friends maybe they can help you.What I'm saying is if you haven't dated much maybe the guys just think you dont want to or are not allowed to go out. I would hate for yo to change yourself for sombeody else if you are happy with yourself then they should be able to acept you that way just a few thoughts

Answer 5

First stop taking the numbers for your friend, maybe you are to pretty, and guys think you will turn them down if they ask you out,.try going out to the mall with someone not as pretty as you are. school it's never a good place any way to date a guy!!! are you could get with a friend around where you live, take him to one of your games at school!! make sure he's real good looking. other guys will think he's yours. I'm sure then they will try talking to you after that, some times people don't want you until they see that someone else dose.so go a head make them really jealous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

It's hard on the ego when your best friend gets more hit than you... made a change will be good... I know it will at least make you feel better... try picking a guy and zero in on him... at lot of times when guys see you with another guy... being out going lets them know your interested... there really not much else you can do... watch some of your friends ways... I am not saying yoou should be like her better there might be one little something she does that gets the guys attention... good luck... hoped this helped

Answer 7

It must be a pain to feel that way. There's a bit of a problem with changing yourself to be popular or in the inner circle. If folks like you for who you pretend to be they really aren't your friends. You aren't, in fact, the only one to feel you're not "in". I felt that way for most all my high school years and never did date a girl from my school for that reason. All I can suggest is that if you are friendly, you'll have friends. Very likely some of them will be guys eventually.

Answer 8

I was in the same boat as you in high school. My problem was that I had low self-esteem and was very shy. If this is your problem, go to the library and start to read up on it. If, on the other hand, you are very outgoing, and outspoken, maybe you're a little too much over the top and need to tone it down a bit.

Answer 9

Probably someone likes you but is maybe to shy to say so or something and maybe u could ask ur friend how she gets so many guys or if u like a guy go up to him and flirt a little lol

Answer 10

Don't ever change into something else than who you are right now... Sure there are more people like you and there's definitly that someone that is just waiting for you... You just gotta stand up and stop crouching... Show everyone who you really are... High school is tough and if your not perfect your out... bunch a BS... Once you adjust to their needs you already lost you interegity... Don't ever change... Be yourself and be natural... got out, have fun, and flirt...