Why do they think this?

Question

My parents and i got into an argument about whether gay marriage is a good idea or not.They said that gay marriage shouldn't be because the bible said so and that marriage is a religious procedure.I said it should be legal because it doesn't have to be religious process and that everyone should have a chance to get married.Then my parents got into a big rant about how wills and if people live together effect marriage when the reasons they gave made no sense.So,what's your opinion on the subject and why?

Answer 1

Your argument is flawless, therefore your parents have tried to bring in other external factors which really have no relevance to gay (or straight) marriage.

"Gay" marriage would have no further problems than "straight" marriage. The mentioning of wills should bare no influence on a marriage. In fact, with or without marriage a couple can have a will, so this is not relevant to the argument!

Furthermore marriage is a legal union (religion is optional) and so the mentioning of the Bible is also a rebuttable argument.

This should not even be an issue - marriage between consenting adults, regardless of their sex or sexual orientation, should be legalized - anything else violates equality and reason...

Answer 2

They may think this because....

1) In ancient times, amongst the Hebrews, marriage was a religious custom that helped the society stay orderly by tracking who would inherit what (remember, virtually none of the characters in the Bible could read, so written wills were out - there was no paper around, anyway)

2) After the fall of Rome, there were no civil magistrates, who normally did the marriage ceremonies, including for ALL the Christians. The church only got into the marriage business when the Roman equivalent of the Justice-of-the-peace was no more - until that point (for hundreds of years) no one could care less about the issue - marriage in the christian world was purely a civil function.

3)Most people today are neither Latin nor Greek nor Hebrew scholars, so they rely for the interpretation of the Bible on other people who supposedly are better trained. Sad to say, not only are many preachers & ministers not knowledgeable of the original languages, but their ignorance becomes paraded as knowledge & misleads many well-meaning folks trying to do the right thing down a confused & misguided path.

*You can get this excellent paperback book at Amazon: What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality: by Daniel A. Helminiak

4)There is alot of cultural baggage related to the word "marriage".
At this point lots of gay people would be happy for a mere improvement in their second-class status - civil union would be fine to most.

Peace to all,

;-)

Answer 3

Ask your parents since they beleive that "gay marriage shouldn't be because the bible said so" if they feel the same way about other things the Bible says such as not touching the skin of skin of a dead pig as football players do (Leviticus 11:6-8), not wearing clothes made of 2 different materials (Leviticus 19:19), and men not shaving (Leviticus 19:27). Parents can teach you things that they have learned through their own experiences, but your parents may have never known any gay people before and they do not understand the discrimination that gay people have to live with every day. You should also ask them that if a gay couple gets married and has the same rights to file joint tax returns and inherit property, how does it affect their life?

Answer 4

The real issue is the separation of church and state. Marriage is a union that does not require religion to make it legal. This is a issue that also falls into the realm of equal rights, protected by the Constitution thus banning it goes against this most important document in our history, rights and freedoms. We need civil unions at least, it doesn't matter what you call it. And keep religion out of it. The best advert we have on here in WI is from a Christian group saying if we vote no on the referendum here in Nov--nothing will change in defining marriage (as in only man and woman). Thus, this will leave room for civil unions. Their advert says I don't agree with homosexuality but they're not bothering us so why should we bother them? Well spoken I think.

Answer 5

Gay marriage is still considered by most people to be an "unnatural" union. So it just makes sense that your parents would not think it is a good idea. I feel as your parents do because it will erode the sanctity (religious historical meaning) of marriage between a man and a woman before God. That is the way God intended it to be and man (or woman) should not change what God ordained as a marriage.

Answer 6

For the people who believe that gays having a legal union will erode the sanctity of marriage-----I think you have all done a pretty good job of that already by divorcing at the drop of a hat, unfaithfulness, and spousal abuse. Now really what are we going to do that will take away from the stellar record the heterosexual union has so far? Single parent households are now the majority, so I guess that sacred union isn't all that sacred to most of you.

Answer 7

love is what should be between two people not wills and all the bullshit later its about now and being happy. tell them you respect their love and marriage and they should be willing to do the same for others. whoeever they are. i am a happily hetrosexual 35 year old woman in a wonderful relationship with a man so my personal opinion should count...

Answer 8

my opinion is, god brought you into the world gay. but then went and made it a sin. so if he made both sides then his views must variey. I think that if people are happy together then let them be happy. the bible also says that devorice is against gods will. but it is accepted in all places. atleast in the us. so let gays be happy!! theyre no differant!!!! ohhh by the way! good question.. sorry if that was no help.

Answer 9

This boils down to rights and respect. Should everyone learn to value that, there would be no need for arguments on the issue.

Answer 10

Your parents have a right to their opinion, you can argue with them until you're blue in the face and it wouldn't make them see your point of view. There's nothing wrong with LGBT people getting married, i'm looking forward to finding a partner and getting married one day.