Is my huband cheating?

Question

My husband an I have been married since 1994, an we have two children. I noticed for the past two times that we have had sex, he has did some new things during sex. I said something to him last night about the new things that he was doing an he said that he didnt know what I was talking about. Ive said something one othertime about something new he did in bed an he said just wanted to try something different. These are things that he has NEVER did before. He isnt interested that much anymore in some certain sex postion like he use to be. IS he cheating? He is three years older than me Im 34. Are could it be his age?

Answer 1

The most likely suspect would be Internet porn. It's easy to get all kinds of creative positions as well as locations from there and those folks certainly look to be having fun. I'd not look a gift horse in the mouth, just go with it and enjoy because obviously your hubby wants to spice things up a bit and if you're not with the program you could end up causing him to seek his thrills elsewhere, thus becoming the cause of your own misfortune.

Answer 2

you should get on the internet porn sites and come up with a few new moves yourself, and when your husband asks you if are cheating, then you will know how he feels. if new sex moves are all the "proof" that you have, then you are a very insecure woman.

yes, the "experts" do say that a change in the sexual lifestyle COULD BE an indication that there are other lovers, but that change is often accompanied by more "red flags". so, either talk to him about your concern, WITHOUT sounding accusing or being confrontational, or just let it be and keep your senses about you for those other red flags. I'm sure everything is fine. P.S. dont forget to get on the net and educate yourself in different sexual styles and surprise him.

Answer 3

If your husband has been exploring porn on the net it could have given him the new ideas, sometimes new tricks arent that bad. However, if husband has had changes in time away from home a little more could be happening. There are many different reasons a man could be using different techniques such as his personal weight gain(making a easier position for him), he could be exploring his or your sexual desires, he also could be trying to give you and him a little spice in the bedroom. Sex is not the only signs of an affair.

Answer 4

He could be watching porn, reading sexual position books, or even getting suggestions from others. Maybe he just wants to be creative for a change, to change the normal old routine. Just because he is suggesting something new in bed, doesn't mean he is cheating on you! Don't accuse him of it either, as that would be a terrible mistake, unless there are other telltale signs. Hey, enjoy the ride!! He may take you to where no man has been before!!

Answer 5

It depends on how much youre having sex now. If its scarce, then the possibility of him cheating is high. If its normal, maybe he picked up some books on positions, or heard something from his buddies, that he wanted to try with you. He probably just wants to spark something in the bedroom, not a big deal and nothing to worry about. As a 30 yr old man myself, I can tell you I've tried new things out of the blue and have never cheated. Go along and have fun with it, maybe find some new positions yourself and fire up your relationship. Have fun

Answer 6

i dont think that he has to be cheating to want to do somethings different maybe he was watching a movie that he souldnt have been or talking to a friend about didnt moves there should be other signs then just these .I think you would know by his actions more then just a couple of things like stsying late at work when he never did or leaving the huse and not know where he is going ,calling looking for him and he's not there where he said he was going

Answer 7

You're absolutely right. Married sex should always follow the same course, every time. Any deviation from the routine is suspect, and indicates an unhealthy sexual attitude, or worse, that the offending spouse is straying or viewing pron. Get to a marriage counselor quickly and restore the status quo, before he wants to start doing it on the kitchen table - which at the ripe old age of 37, could be detrimental to his health.

Answer 8

Are their any other signs of cheating? Maybe he just watched some porn and wanted to try some new moves? Ask him...communicate. If he smells like another woman other perfume, spend lots of time working late all of a sudden, wants fancy undies he never did bef. got a new haircut and aftershave, looks hot for business meetings, has private phone calls or locks his mobile phone all of a sudden or had a secret email account, than be worried....the new sex stuff don't we all want that?

Answer 9

He could simply be trying things he always wanted to and hasn't. He could've seen something online (yes many men look at porn on the Internet - gasp- ;-) what a shocker!)
That warning in Cosmo that trying new things in bed = having a mistress just isn't true. If you know all *his* "moves" by heart, maybe he knows all *yours*, too!
It's easier and more concrete to check the cell phone bill, credit card bills, and ATM records to see if he's cheating. New sex moves isn't enough on its own to indicate that.

Answer 10

It might be that he wants to explore the bounderies of your sexuality.You've been together sine 1994 am sure you really knew him well.If he's acting strangely not just in bed but in his lifestyle too changes well maybe there's really somethings up.You might consider talking to him 'bout what you've noticed.The most vivid actions a cheater does is the "lying thing" the excuses that they'll be coming home late for business meeting,they'' have dinner w/ thier business associates,thier iimportant clients,stuffs like that.The "not his usual thing" you know.But as what you've mentioned...i think its just too early to judge.But you're the one whose w/ him am sure you'll know the difference.So best of luck mommy.