I am tempted to do the same back to him but wonder if anyone has any reasons as to why he is constantly doing this and what i should do?
2006-10-29 12:01:19 · 22 answers · asked by Hard Doodle 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
we are both males are are friends
2006-10-29 12:11:08 · update #1
Give her a talking to and if it keeps happening then leave.
2006-10-29 12:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by bor_rabnud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In psychological term he may be classed as an altercaster. He may feel the need to put you down in order to make himself feel superior and more dominate to impress others or himself. The more you give in to this the more the reinforcment he will get from the altercast thus the more he needs to do it. He may well have a very low esteem of himself which he won't admit to or be aware of. You perhaps need to start to be more assertive towards the altercast when it comes without being to critical of him. Altercasters tend not to have to many friends for this reason. Perhaps you may have to make the choice wether or not to put up with it. Good luck.
2006-10-29 12:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
is he worth it? try talking to him about it calmly. do you really love him? i do not endorse divorce but i do endorse happiness in marriage, and if that's not what it's getting you, you need to talk to him and try and get him to change. don't divorce. that's giving up. hang in there, be true, keep your promises, and always love him --- what comes around goes around!
he may just be confused about something. something must be bothering him. he probably needs someone to talk to. let him turn to you for that help. always be there for him. don't do it back to him, that's just sinking to his level. be a light, be an encouragement, be an example, and you'll be much happier. if only all married couples would be like that. the peace and love in the world would be much more. think if everyone just would love each other. that'd be great. he needs you right now, i'd guess. don't ruin your relationship with revenge and grudges. break ups just hurt too bad, and on top of that, they cost too much. hang in there! good luck!
wait, are you gay? that changes everything!!!!!!!!! being gay is just SOOOO wrong!
2006-10-29 12:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by ~Cameron's Grl~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when a person does this it is because of one of several reasons. One,the person may be insecure or intimidated and you are the victim of his insecurity.
Two, if a man has not grown up with a positive female and if his mother was not close to him, he will likely not know how to love, respect or respond to you.
In any case, you must accept that and stay or make up your mind that your life is too important to allow people in your space who likely will never know how to respect you.
2006-10-29 12:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by Willard S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people just have that yearning to pick and contradict!! I makes them feel superior for some reason. They have LOW self esteem, and by putting you down, it gives them a "Boost" in their self esteem. They want to make you feel as low as they feel. You may want to talk to your mate about this concern, and if it doesn't do any good, start looking elsewhere. You don't need that. Good Luck to you!!!
2006-10-29 12:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jillybeanyweiney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who do that usually don't think much of themselves and need to put down other people to make themselves look better. Rather than stooping to doing the same thing to him, let him know how you feel and ask him why he does it. He may not even be aware of it. If he is aware of it and trivializes it as if it's no big deal, then you need to ask yourself if you really want to be with someone like that.
2006-10-29 12:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...it would depends why he is contradicting you. Putting you down is plain old unkind. Speak to him about it, and see if anything changes. Otherwise, dump him. He probably feels the need for added control. It may not be the "real" him, he just may be uncomfortable with something.
2006-10-29 12:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by who? me? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the bum, as my friends and I used to say about dates/relationships that were not working. It's clear that your mate only think about him/herself and has NO concern for you. Don't expect that to change anytime soon, if ever! This person is damaged and is using you as an emotional "punching bag". Telling them to quit it will probably not work. Get out now!
2006-10-29 12:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a lot of jealousy on his part , you are doing something right,he wish he had your demeanor and can't get it together.You keep on doing what you're doing and if he can't take it move on with your life. there is someone that will appreciate what you stand for . Don't waste your time trying to get even it causes more drama . Leave his negativity with him. Love yourself first .
2006-10-29 12:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mate is insecure and as a result extremely defensive. Defensive people make things about themselves and don't really get that it's not about them. It's entirely possible that your mate is totally clueless that their behaving this way. Passive-aggressive?
2006-10-29 12:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a new mate. b/c he doesn't value your thoughts or opinions. And you for sure don't want to have kids with this dude. Parenting requires team work, and there is no team in your relations with this dude. Tell him what's up and if he doesn't change immediately....walk.
good luck
2006-10-29 12:04:13 · answer #11 · answered by justforthisonepost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋