your husband/spouse only last 3 minutes in bed?? What can I do to make it last longer?He's only 24 and he say's that the reason it "happens" so quickly is because "it's just so damn good"...am I supposed to feel flatterd? I think it's selfish and a total turn off..but what can I do?? I've told him about it and it still didnt help.What next?
2006-10-29 11:55:58 · 49 answers · asked by FLORIDA 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let him masturbate first... then it will be longer for him to have a orgasm again, so work him back up.. and do your thing... that would be the best thing..
2006-10-29 11:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by key key 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
"It's just so damn good" ok, we've all heard the I think, true or not. There are a few things the two of you could do if he's willing. Where I am, we can buy these pills right in the convienience store - Stamina RX - they really work and depending on where you buy them, there's probaly a few different brands that that make similar things. I have also found cock rings to work but not as long as those pills! I think the big problem is that alot of guys with this problem don't want to go any longer. They want to get their nut off and go eat. I know you talked to him about it, but did you tell him you think it's selfish and a turnoff? He has to be willing to try other things to fix the problem. Also if the two of you drink, get him a bottle - just make sure he does't drink too much or he might not make an appearance at all. Alchohol can produce a significant delay. Good luck!
2006-10-29 12:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by Trish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does a long time go between each time? If so, try doing it more frequently, or having him pleasure himself a day or so before and that could help. Too much foreplay maybe? Try to cut back on that. Try doing or using something when you're together that might help you get yours before his 3 minutes start.
That is unfortunately not enough time for you to even get close, and that sucks. And the part of it that sucks is you want to be understanding, but at the same time, if that happens too often you get resentful, then you start turning him down because it's not worth the 3 minutes to have to then take a shower, etc. Don't immasculate him about it, because he may have a problem he can't do anything about, except ask his doctor maybe. I don't believe any man does that on purpose. But the average time for most people is (I think) around 10 minutes, give or take a few.
2006-10-29 12:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know i'm not a girl, but I don't care. There are several things you can try. One is getting him to either masturbate before you even start, or get him off once before you have sex, maybe then he'll last longer. Some guys just have different speeds than others. Some last 3 minutes, some will never *** no matter how hard you try. He's just a quick guy.
2006-10-29 11:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by wsguy1983 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same thing was happening with me and my guy, you have to teach him how to hold it, when he starts to feel it explode make him stop stroking and be still for a few minutes....each and everytime he gets ready to climax make him stop and wait for it to go back up. After a while he will get the idea and learn to control it himself, while he is waiting he has to continue the foreplay so that you don't turn cold while waiting. By the way...while waiting HE SHOULD NOT PULL OUT.....just stay there on top or where ever he is during this and wait it out. Give this a few months for him to get use to it....don't give up but he has got to be willing to do this or it won't work.
2006-10-29 12:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by jupitor 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's a lie he can last longer I know I had a spouse like him years ago he had the same excuse then I told him 2 start lasting longer or I'll look else where I was lying of course but it sure changed everything he was just out to satisfy his needs not mine I say your guy is doing the same thing he can last longer just doesn't want 2.Good Luck
2006-10-29 11:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I've had the same probably. My guy was litually the 1 minute man and he was proud of it which made it worse. After sex I would look disappointed and told him well that was short. After a while I told him that he needed to slow down so we can enjoy it longer. When he finally he enjoyed it even though he found himself more tired after sex.
2006-10-29 12:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few things he can do, and you too..make sure you are taken care of first...also, he can learn how to control his problem...like doing it a bit, and then stopping for a few seconds while he calms down. Its frusterating I know, had the same problem and he gave the same reason, lol..I think they just get really excited and don't want to stop...Work with him on it, withdrawing for a few seconds will help him....Good luck to you!
2006-10-29 12:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by Laea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try New ways with him pactice more and if not
TRUST ME WHEN I Y TELL YOU! , you will get bored and always feel unsatisfied which will make you want to look elsewhere which means adultery and well then divorce and sad kids THINK ABOUT IT!!!
p.s.
I know you might think im overexaggerating but trust me its the truth TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT! : )
2006-10-29 11:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by WISSEN IST ENERGIE!!! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may want to do some research on premature ejaculation. I would not bring this up with him until you do some research as it is probably a sensitive subject. I have included one link, but there are several reputable Internet sites, and I strongly suggest he discuss this with his doctor, if it is a possibility. Here's to lots of wonderful intimacy in your future!
2006-10-29 12:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by lollipop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you say Viagra!! JK but you might want to try slowing things down when you feel him getting too excited STOP!! Also try a little more foreplay for you. Good Luck!!
2006-10-29 13:04:28 · answer #11 · answered by littlemama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋