My boyfriend and i have been dating almost two years and have been talking about getting married for a while. He's a sophmore in college and i'm graduating high school. I really love him and i know he'll stick by me. We wanted to get married after we were completly done with school but now we're going to be moving in together, out of state. Is marriage before college a good idea?
2006-10-29 11:46:48 · 21 answers · asked by Tara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that the stress of college and living together is enough to deal with. At this point, you don't need the added stress of marriage. You are going to be living together, just take your time with getting married.
2006-10-29 11:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I think you should wait! You have a lot of life changes you will go through over the next couple of years. You will go away to college and then start a career. Odds are you will change jobs at least a couple of times before you find the right employer. Sometimes these job changes can lead to relocation, from one city or part of the country to another. All of these things can be very exciting and very stressful.
In fact, they say the three biggest stresses in life are relationship changes (i.e. break-ups, marriage, divorce, etc.), career changes and moving/relocating. If you marry before you have experienced all of these things, odds are against the relationship lasting. There is a far better chance that the two of you will grow apart from one another and the relationship will end in a divorce.
You would be far, far better off waiting to get married until after you are finished with college and have settled into a career you are happy with.
Please, for your own good, learn from someone else's mistake!
2006-10-29 12:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by Colonel Angus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are too young. I honestly think marriage should wait until about 30 years of age. By that time you can have all there is to have in single life. Your sure your mature enough to settle down. You should be able to travel with friends, dance the night away, find the things you love in life and know what you want. Love yourself and be comfortable with yourself. You should live on your own just to see what its like. Have a kick *** career that you are happy with. When children come along its not so easy to do all these things. Then when you have experienced most of what life has to offer you marry to share all this and more all over again.
2006-10-29 12:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is wonderful, but requires a lot of adjustment and compromising. Adding the stresses of college can be a disaster!! If you are truly in love and are committed to each other, a couple of years will not make a difference in the end. Take your time and make sure this is what you want. Marriage should be for the rest of your life and should not be rushed into. Enjoy this time in your life with your boyfriend and your friends, but don/t rush into marriage. Marriage has an entirely different set of responsibilities attached so you should enjoy your youth and single life while you can.
2006-10-29 11:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by bugged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait to get married. I would move in with him and see what that is like before getting married. There is a lot you learn about a person when you live with them that you didnt know before. Plus it will be your first time away from home, and your first year of college I would wait and see what life brings you because marriage is a big step.
2006-10-29 11:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think now is not a good time for marriage because eventually something might go wrong examples: children, divorce because you married to young and either you or he might want to still to explore your oppurtunities in life. Atleast get your associates in college first, this would be the almost the same thing I tell to my little sister b4 I beat her compaion down some ( just kiddin)
2006-10-29 11:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by essio16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetly not as soon as you get married youll soon come to realize tht you dont have time for college because you gotta feed watch change diapers and spend the next 18 yers of your life tking care of someone else and when they move out the house 22 years from today then youll say to yourself now i got time do tht something and hopefully youll go to college
2006-10-29 11:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by acura_rsx03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try living together for at least a year and then start your plans. Thet way it will take a year and a half till you go thru with it and by that time you will have a feel for it. But don't get pregnant in the meantime.
Good luck
2006-10-29 11:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very individual. My husband and I got married during College, and it has been amazing. But you have to have a strong relationship, because College takes a lot of dedication and hard work. Good luck!
2006-10-29 11:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by Tami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you 2 can support yourselves, then get married while still in college. We did and had a get time, we both finished college with advanced degrees and we f*ucked our brains out while in college. We have have a very happy marriage with excellent careers
2006-10-29 12:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by mklwis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋