I'm relativley new to the child custody situation but I find that my ex-does not want to share. She makes up claims of domestic violence and abuse. The relationship was not good. I filed for divorce so that my daughter would not have to be raised in a house of conflict. Regardless our marriage and our own problems between us both I find it reasonable to share custody. I find it ironic that the cops have never been called in a dispute yet the day I file she tries to say I assulted her, and since has called the police trying to get me arrested. Each time the police saw she was full of it and so I never was.
My question is: If there was absolutley no abuse that would substantiate one party not haveing 50% custody would you support it even if the other party did not?
2006-10-29 11:43:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I am in no way a feminist but i TOTALLY support 50/50 custody. What automatically makes the mother the custodial parent? Why don't fathers get equal rights? First of all, mothers are notorious for trying to turn their children against their fathers for their own selfish reasons, second, mothers typically do not use the child support money for their children's benefit only, and thirdly, I would bet that more than half the crime in the US is by males that did not have father's in their lives so why shouldn't a father get that right to be an equal parent in their child's life?
2006-10-30 01:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lori W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex does NOT get to decide unless you give up. The courts decide. I am all for fathers staying involved in their kids' lives as much as possible, after a break-up. If your spouse won't be reasonable (and maybe she will after she has time to calm down...she's angry right now, as most divorcing couples are...was there infidelity? Alcohol?...on either part? That could explain her trying to have you arrested. If you were drunk, maybe you were annoying. If SHE was drunk, maybe she didn't know what she was doing...or maybe you two have just been in a bad relationship too long).
Anyway, get a lawyer, prove your history of NOT being violent or abusive (get some character witnesses) and fight it. You'll also need a lawyer for division of property, etc., even if you were doing this amicably.
Good luck!
2006-10-29 19:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can not reach an understanding with you wife you risk turning your child into a weapon that you use on each other. In principle 50-50 is best, but only if everybody is civilized. Get joint counseling, make rules and stick to them. Stay away from your wife without a third party present until an understanding is reached. Don't say anything bad about your wife to your child.
2006-10-29 19:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by meg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no serious reason why someone should not have custody, then, I believe in the best interest of the child, both parents should have equal opportunity to parent and be apart of the child's life.
2006-10-29 19:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by Dyanstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I belive in 50/50 and in the state of CO as of jan 2007 it will be a 50/50 state
2006-10-29 20:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would support 50.50 custody if there was nothing wrong with the situation and the other partner. children need both their parents in order to grow up as healthy as they can be. divorce is already tragic enough on a child's mind, why take away a parent too? that's just my take.
2006-10-29 19:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by deer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually at general styles : YES, but no for everytimes.
If whatever you said be true your custody right is more than her.
This was my opinion although I am not a female but I'm a feminist boy.
2006-10-29 19:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by MirHadi B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋