my best friend likes this guy and he already said he doesnt like her. now, he's admitted he likes me. I feel like i'm falling for him too. i'm not gonna do anything with him, but am i betraying my friend because of my feelings for him? and am i the reason he doesnt like her? part of the reason why i feel like im betraying her is because she's really hurt right now. and here i am sharing mutual feelings with him! is that wrong?
2006-10-29 11:38:02 · 26 answers · asked by Cecilia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
by the way, she liked him first. does that mean she kinda has "dibs"?
2006-10-29 11:45:51 · update #1
Ever heard of the term "Bros before hoes"? Well, here's a one for you "Chicks before *****".
If you're a good friend, you should never chose a guy over a friend.
2006-10-29 11:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by 00jag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to feel that way, but I personally wouldn't act on those feelings out of consideration for my friend.
You know what you could do? Wait it out a little bit. It would be a good idea for a couple of reasons. First you would see if it's more than a crush on your part and on the guy's part. Secondly, you would give your friend time to move on too.... Plus if, with time, she finds a new guy, then if you and this guy still have feelings for each other, then it would be OK to act on them.
I wish you the best. You sound like a nice person and a good friend.
2006-10-29 19:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think any guy who would play two friends and possibly make it ruin the friendship is not worth having around. Guys will come and go, best friends are hard to find. I say tell the guy to take a leap, you and your friend rent a bunch of chick flicks and pig out on junk food. Another guy will come along for each of you. So in short, yes it is a betrayal, and you have to decide which is more important..a guy who will more then likely break your heart and chance loosing your best friend, or walking away from this guy who hurt your best friend and keep a friend that will be there for you when you need someone.
2006-10-29 19:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't wrong because you can't control your feelings, but I think that you shouldn't lead him on. MAKE him like your friend. Nothing but bad will come of this.. I was in your friend's position a while ago. Right now I'm so mad at my friend for that. I would have been the better girlfriend too.. Don't make the same mistake she did. Find another guy. He is definitely not not worth it.
2006-10-29 19:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by lovelylady12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal to feel this way.u can't control who u like.its just natural.if this girl is a tru friend then she'll let yall be together.real friends dont stand in the way of a realtionship.shell probabally get mad at u 4 a while but then shell realize that she cant have him so why not her bff.dont worry.shell come to her sences after a while.so go with him & let her know shell have someone like him 4 herself one day.
2006-10-29 19:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop your feelings... regardles of who it is. However, you're not in the wrong. You're not going out with the boy and although you do have mutual feelings for him, you respect you friendship with this girl so much that you know being with this guy isn't an option.
Remember, friends first.
2006-10-29 19:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you be straitforward, caring and altogether honest with her. Say everything to her that you posted here on you Yahoo question. Just remember, you definately don't wanna mess things up with your friend over a guy. Handle your life and her life and y'alls friendship with respect, dignity, delicacy, much thought and love...and it will turn out way better than if you are not that way. Be honorable in your friendship with her. Trust in the Lord with all you heart, and He will direct your paths. Jesus is Lord!!! :)
2006-10-29 19:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by jc_2chat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don`t act on those feelings, you`re not doing anything wrong. If he likes you, its not your fault, but don`t egg him on or tell him that you like him too. Try to comfort your friend and maybe she`ll get over him eventually. Then you can ask her if it would be okay if you went out with him or something. Make sure she knows that its okay if she says no though.
2006-10-29 19:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry. all it means is that you're luckier than your friend and you are a good friend actually because you're respecting the friendship by not going after the boy that you might like. i feel bad for your friend, but there isn't a lot anyone can do about the situation. keep it careful and don't do anything that might hurt your friend. friends are worth more than boys.
you sound like a good friend to me.
2006-10-29 19:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by fireflower413 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
telll her that you like him and that you didnt mean for it to happen but it has and that you think he likes you to. Tell her you havnt done anything about it cause of the way she feels but that you really do like him and dont know what to do. That you love her but waht if it was meant to be and you miss out because of her. That is something that you need to think about to, do you think it could be for real or are you going to hurt a friendship cause if it. If you think its going to be real then go for it, you cant hurt yourself to save another. Good luck
2006-10-29 19:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋