there is always blk grls always insulting my friend saying you don't match and things like that.?

Question

there is a group of black grls(no offense),and they are always telling my friend she doesn'y match and she needs some fashion tips and mean things like that.my friend is kinda overweight and she can't find any clothes that are in style that will fit her.how can she get them to stop insulting her?

one day she had to wear pajamas to school because she had spent the whole night before in the emergency room cause her grandma had a stroke..;;;when we were walking around at luch one of them told her pajama day is over..

Answer 1

She needs to muster up some courage and confront those girls. I know it is hard, but I have had to do it.
Say to them: Do you really think being nasty, and insulting me is funny? What do you get out of it? Does the way I dress hurt you in any way? And how pray tell, is it any of your concern what I choose to dress in? If it makes you feel better to take cheap shots at me go ahead, but your just wasting all of our time. Just because you are skinny and wear $50 jeans from the mall doesn't make you a better person than me. At the end of the day, you girls are just like me, you all laugh, hurt, and cry. And in 5 yrs, it won't matter what I wore in high school, because ppl are going to remember me for who I was, not what I wore.
That is the jist of what she needs to say to those girls. To knock them off thier high horse and let them know - she is a person to, and they aren't doing any good by being mean to her. I never had to say that on my own behalf, but I did for my sister and her bestfriend. I have always been skinny, and could always find cute clothes, but my sister was always big boned and ppl treated her the same way. It takes some courage to do that, but it is well worth it. Even if they don't stop, atleast they won't have the satisfaction of thinking they are hurting her. Teenage girls are nasty. But you know what? I am almost 21 now, married with 2 kids- and I mean it when I say, I don't give a crap about what happened in high scool. It was all drama and nothing more. There are more important things in life.
FOR YOUR FRIEND: Give your friend a hug for me, and tell her that it's going to be ok. Being pretty on the outside isn't what counts, and it's over rated. I think it is way better to be a little over weight and have a pretty heart, than be skinny, popular and pretty on the outside and be ugly on the inside. I know ppl say it all the time- but it is so true! If I was there, I would tell those snobs off in a heartbeat for you!

Answer 2

What you need to do is just encourage her, that she is a pretty young lady and that it doesn't matter what those girls say, people are cruel and always will be...you just need to be there for her to give her a hug and tell her it's alright when they are mean. Sadly most kids now days are not raised to respect others, there's nothing that can be done about that. Just be her friend, it sounds she has very low self-esteem and needs to know that you think she's special.

There has to be clothing stores in your area that has clothes in her size and are rather stylish, Wal-Mart, Target.. I don't shop at Kmart, Kohl's, Gordmans, but I'm sure they do too, even if she has to go to the adults size then have them altered slightly, there is also Kathrine's.

Answer 3

Tell your friend to do one of two things;

(A) Once and for all throw down with the group of girls. If she can't take the heat, don't go near the fire.

(B) If she's not going to do anything, then just ignore them. They'll find someone else to 'pick-on' if they're not getting her mad.


Personally, I chose "A" when I was in school. Hell with being tortured. I got beat down pretty bad, but the backed off and eventually were normal to me. That was back in the day tho when people just fought closed-fisted. No guns or nothing like that.

Answer 4

You need to be there for your friend and tell her what I am about to tell you.
These girls that are insulting her are only doing it because they've got no self esteem. They don't believe in themselves. They have no self confidence. When they look in the mirror, they don't like themselves, no matter how much they play it off in front of others. When people put other people down based on looks, it's because they're trying to cover up their own insecurities.
Secondly, your friend needs to stick up for herself regardless. She needs to tell them that she'll dress the way she wants to, she's dressing the way she likes, not to get compliments... and that she doesn't need the opinions of other people. If they're not wearing what she's wearing, then they shouldn't be worried about it anyway.
Also— just a tip for your friend if she's looking for good plus clothing stores; my older sister is overweight and shops at Lane Bryant. They have really nice clothes for plus sized women.

Answer 5

Well, she did kind of open the door for criticism by wearing pj's to school. I mean kids are cruel. She has two choices (and its sad but it is the harsh reality of life), get tuff (forget what they say, ignore them, block them out, tell the principle that these girls are making it very hard for her), or get her some fashion help (look in magazines, online, etc.). I don't buy that she can't find clothes in style to fit her. There are now just as many fashion clothes for big people as there are small people.

Answer 6

Just ignore the bullies they'll get the message. Those girls are teasers they're trouble makers. Maybe your friend needs to do something positive to herself like looking after her health go to the Gym eat healthy food and start working out the problem then she can wear anything she likes. This will be a positive way for her and to improve her self esteem.

Answer 7

well..there are some plus sized clothing stores...Pennington's, lane Bryant, addition-Elle to name a few...she could go shopping at those places...as for the pj's..she knew those gals would harass her..I'd have missed first class to go home and change...if the teasing really bothers her...
who knows...maybe she could approach those gals and just confront them..and say if you know where she can get some clothes then by all means help out...otherwise if you have no solution...why make more problems...
sometimes people who are critical may back down if asked for help due to their criticism

Answer 8

Unfortunately, you can stop ignorant girls like that from saying those things. But if she ignores them and doesn't comment or look at them, they may stop when they realize they don't get to her. And tell her to keep in mind that people like that grow up to be losers.....one day she will see them after she graduates...she will be pretty, popular, etc and they will be single mothers on welfare............head up!

Answer 9

Put the boot into them its all they will respect at the end of the day!!!
The bit ches!!