Don't you hate it when you have thoughts like getting into a serious relationship or getting married and thinking "i bet they wouldn't if they knew things like am afraid of the dark, pick your nose, scratch your butt, ever did anything with other girls, having something like OCD, constantly being jealous but not showing it"
ok all these arn't mine but i am giving examples of things people pick on people about. How do you stop thinking things like that? I mean i would post this under relationships but it has alot to do with psychology too if any of you are good with it. Also the people on the singles and dating are rude half the time. Thanks
2006-10-29 11:23:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Those little things make you who you are. Once you get married, or are in a serious relationship those things come up eventually! But you have to be able to love your partner for who they are, not their little habits. But i do know what you are saying!
2006-10-29 11:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Tami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about those things! Once your significant other starts noticing any things like that in YOU, no doubt he/she will also be "letting it all hang out" and you'll be grossed out or put off too! (I'm only partially joking!...I've been married for 17 yrs!). One of my spouse's pet peeves is that I hog the Gamecube (I do!) and some of mine are: being disorganized, crunching too loudly on potato chips, not washing hands after peeing, never finishing stuff around the house....well we could each write a book! But we still love each other.
As for the thoughts. Try "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy"...which uses a type of rational "self-talk" to counterract irrational negative thinking.
There are plenty of sites on it...just do a search, and plenty of places where a counselor can teach you how to do it.
2006-10-29 11:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask in case you rather love the guy . if so your going to would desire to trick your very own ideas . The subconscious is a humorous subject to handle . Have him stand on something that would make him look some inches taller then you definately then stand in front of a mirror so which you are going to locate each and each-different at the same time . you're a seen individual . ill guess your the type that would see issues that others do in basic terms no longer observe .
2016-10-03 02:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by wichern 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct in a sense. But before engaging in marriage, full understanding and awareness of what being married is about must be achieved. Another solution is have two rooms and only sleep together if you want sex.
2006-10-29 11:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kohn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
real quick okay. recently i started taking st johns wort . 2 first thing i n the mornin. the over thinking stopped. this vitamin cuold be a great help in most relationships because it helps you not to be so self conseous and be more rational and calm. your brain is quieted. so to my fellow depressed ones, get your buts out to the drug store and get st johns wort. email me if you need any advice for taking action to make your life better. trust me ive been there. skysmama77@yahoo.com
2006-10-30 16:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by solas lethe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OCDs are common, and all of us have them to some degree, but if we are aware that we have them then we can start to control them and get help if we need it. If the things that people do unconciously like the above mentioned things are considered normal, and they are; then we all do them so they are not surprises............
2006-10-29 11:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds alot like the "i'm not good enough" complex... the "they wouldnt like me if they knew the real me" comes alot from thinking that we arent as worthy as others... if someone you love tells you something about themselves like in your examples, do you stop loving them? no... nobody is perfect, everybody has their flaws... try some positive affirmations.. those help me =)
ie. "I am a good person and I deserve good things. I am worth just as much as anyone else"
2006-10-29 11:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just sound very insecure, I know because I can be insecure too. Until you learn to love yourself and except yourself for all of your traits and even faults....you won't be able to except that someone else could actually except them too. I know, I'm still trying to accomplish this. Good luck gurly!!
2006-10-29 11:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋