Okay I'm a fourteen year old girl, and a freshman in highschool, as is my friend. A guy just asked her out and she said yes. Now, after talking to this guy and his friends, and looking into him a little bit, i found out that he does drugs and smokes and he carries a knife around. I've seen it. I love my friend to death, and I don't want her to get hurt (physically, sexually, or mentally) but I don't know what to do. I've told her about him, and she's talked to him, and its not that she doesn't believe me, but she doesn't seem to care. And I know she doesn't want to get involved in that, but to put it nicely, she isn't used to guys liking her, and she's willing to take whoever she can, even this guy... she doesn't seem to take it seriously, how dangerous he is and how badly she could end up after its over... I don't know how to get this through to her, and i refuse to give up and let my friend get hurt. Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated! Thank you so much!!
2006-10-29 11:20:27 · 8 answers · asked by xxEquestrianxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
make her promise that if he tries to get her to do drugs or if he threatens her, to dump him right away. make sure you know all that goes on, and if she asks why, tell her you're watching her back, whether she likes it or not. shes youre friend, she may like him back, but a possibly abusive druggie boyfriend is not a good idea. if it gets to extremes, hes hurting her and she wont dump him, tell her parents, a teacher, whatever you feel is right. good luck, and watch her back.
2006-10-29 11:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by babiee gurl kiki<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a complicated situation. You can only tell her so many times that you don't approve and don't want to see her get hurt. But sometimes as a friend you just need to stick by her and be there after she's gotten hurt. There's not much else you can do sometimes, but pick up the pieces.
2006-10-29 11:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend doesnt care, then she either loves him to death, or likes that look of a bad boy, (ewww!), you have 3 options, you can just stand around and let the punk hurt her,learn to like him for what he is, or have a Lil talk with him and say "If you hurt her I will hunt you down like a dog and kill you nice and slow, OK?So you better watch it." ( if i was you, I would choose option three, because Ive tried it b4, it works)
2006-10-29 11:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything that might hurt you. Maybe try to give her an example,maybe something that happened to someone else,that is kind of in her situation.
2006-10-29 11:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by Shawty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe this will be tough, but tell her parents. they might have more power than you do, and even if she wants to keep seeing him it might be enough to keep her out of trouble.
don't confront her boyfriend, whatever you do, but it sounds like you already know that. just don't do anything rash that could end up with YOU hurt. be careful and good luck!.
2006-10-29 11:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by fireflower413 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry girls will always go after the bad boys. she will have to learn her lesson the hard way like we all have done or will do. it is a part of life.
2006-10-29 11:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by michelle b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to show her in some way that he is harmful. That is so nice for what you are doing for your friend.
2006-10-29 11:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by masterurownmind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-29 11:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋