Why? can i only seem to give others advice and not take it myself?

Question

why is it so easy for me to give advice to other people and then they use it and everything works out prefectly. yet i never take my own advice?

Answer 1

a doctor can't heal himself

Answer 2

So perhaps a better question is How do I take my own advice? Ask yourself, do I really want to change? Pehaps you don't, not deep down. Let's take the smoking thing, though that's an addiction and tougher, I really want to quit? Really?? Dig deep, you may find, I think I should quit cause I'd feel better, be healthier and everyone says I should but.. I like it. There in lies your problem. You have to want to take your advice Figure out why you don't. Then, if you decide yes I truly do want to change, perhaps a support group is your best answer. We don't all work well alone, some of us need a cheer leading section.There's lots of support groups on the internet these days, for those who can't bring themselves to do it in person. Nothin' wrong with looking for support and help, you just did, by the way. Good for you.

Answer 3

I'm the same exact way... it's actually kinda creepy.

People come to me for advice for no apparent reason on a daily basis, and I usually have a good answer, but when i'm stuck it's harder to dig myself out because it's a completely different perspective.

Well, I guess I really don't have much of an answer today. Sorry!

Answer 4

Have you not realized that the person you give advice to is but your mirror?? If the defect you see in others upsets you then you still have the defect your self.if you have corrected this defect in your self an forgiven yourself,then you will just smile and go on, saying to yourself,they to shall learn.Yes it is much easier to see others than ourselves.Be careful about correcting defects in others,unless asked,you may step through your looking glass into alices wonderland an get lost. LOVE

Answer 5

Its human nature. We tend to be blind to our own faults when other peoples faults are painfully clear. Usually all we need to bridge the gap is a bit of humility. Ivy Leauge students are very very smart. The flaw is exactly that and how sure they are of it. Just mess it all up and when they are SURE they know EVERYTHING, sneak something in. Like when the huns fought the romans, one voley of arrows straight up, then the shields go up, then fire a volley sideways. Mostly works too.

Answer 6

i don't know why. i am just like you. i can give people advice freely but i cant take my own without force. not the bad kind of force. i wouldn't do that. when i give advice soon people come back saying that it worked. i have a big heart. i cant stand to see my friends troubled. its allot easier giving than receiving advice. we tend to try and go the easy way out of things. i think its because we want someone Else's perspective of the situation. friends want peoples eye of view of things, but i guess we don't want our own view of situations that we get ourselves into.

Answer 7

Sometimes I have that problem and I think a lot of it has to do with confidence.. For me, anyways. It is always a lot easier to tell people to go for it and give them great ideas, but the people giving advise might be afraid to fail themselves!

Answer 8

When you're on the outside looking in it's easier to recognize a problem and come up with a way to solve it. Someone elses problem and/or solution doesn't affect you directly.

Answer 9

You are able to adopt a objective approach to other people's problems, but you can't live outside of yourself when it comes down to your own issues.
I wonder about that sometimes myself. Perhaps you are an Aquarius too.

Answer 10

We cannot be objective to our self, therefore we cannot see our problems in a realistic way. To solve a problem is to first accept it exists; we prefer see our self clean and pure and therefore we do not "see" clearly our problems. It is always easier to criticize other people, we are able to see their mistakes; therefore we can give them advice of how to solve their problems.

Answer 11

lol sounds like me. i learned a lot of my problem was from actaully believing the crap my parents stuck in my head about me -- as in my brain didn't work so i needed their superiority. parents play crazy mind games on their kids. im not saying this is what happened to you but you might want to think about it. i learned my own advice was crap but then when other people used it things happened. and then i had to figure out why i thought i was so worthless. and that went back to mom n dad. good luck.