I'm actually a female to male transsexual, but I am attracted still to lesbian women. (I got labeled a butch lesbian before my transition, and have always dated lesbians). So, I have a lot of friends that are gay and lesbian and I'm still involved in the gay community. As a matter of fact, I used to be the public relations officer for our campus glbt student organization. However, I don't act like a "player", I don't proposition people for sex, I don't get extremely drunk in public every night, I don't have orgies, I'm NOT NOT NOT into vindictiveness or drama, I'm not a bar fly, and I'm not into drugs. It just seems like most of the gay community here does all the aforementioned things. So, do I just not fit in as a member of the gay community or what's going on?
2006-10-29 10:56:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't feel I'm stereotyping anything. I'm the kind of person who will not judge before experience. I'm a science major, so I don't assume anything until I personally experience it and experiment with it. I've experienced, and now I'm just calling it like I see it. This is just an observation, not an absolute fact of all gay people.
2006-10-29 13:36:56 · update #1
You're a man who dates women and assumes all the stereotypes about gay men are true?
I think we have a name for you....and it's not "Too normal"
2006-10-29 11:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess a lot of people are just wild-gay or straight-and will go to bars to let their stress go. I don't personally do this myself. We all have different channels for releasing stress though. Some people feel like they can become inebriated so as be accepted/do things they wouldn't normally do. I don't see why? I guess that's just my personal opinion, sorry if it offends anyone here. I do not judge others, I just know what kind of person I am like.
2006-10-29 19:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it just sounds as if you are "into" perpetuating stereotypes and that little rant about "proposition people for sex, I don't get extremely drunk in public every night, I don't have orgies," and,", I'm not a bar fly, and I'm not into drugs." sounds exactly like judgmentalism and Vindictiveness.
2006-10-29 20:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The Gay community is a fickle batch of people, it isn't you....trust me. I am a Gay man, over 30 y/o and that makes me too old to be part of the "social" in group. Come on people in this community, if we cannot be unity, how can we expect the rest of the world take us seriously?
2006-10-29 19:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by Michael R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Poor you! You have dignity.
This is what straight people call their descreet nature about their sex lives. Most don't even talk about sex in an adult setting! Mainly because they don't think it's anyone's business, and there are other ways to connect to human beings.
2006-10-29 19:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can still fit in even though you're not like the others (strait gay).
2006-10-29 19:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by princess_kia93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are what you are, as long as you dont force others to be what you want them to be then your ok by me.
2006-10-29 18:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by SunGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋