Last thursday I "decided" to give my virginity to my bf. The problem is he says im tense and my " vaginal muscles" are shut or something like that. So there for he cant get all the way in. Everyday since then we keep trying but its not happening. What is the problem? Why cant I relax? Also the 1st time we tried having sex bodily fluids were everywhere.. could I be pregnant?
2006-10-29 10:43:15 · 5 answers · asked by **Lyn** 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Buy a lubricant like KY jelly. Yes, if he came inside you, you can be pregnant.
2006-10-29 10:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sabina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh! I feel for you. Literally.
First, it'd halp if you were good and relaxed to begin with....I suggest oral pleasure, as that'll get you really relaxed and wet anyway. Then add lube. It might help for him to just hold still for a little while once he is inside of you to let your vaginal passage strtch out a little bit. That should stop hurting after a few minutes, and then you can slowly start working on thrusts. It might hut the first few times that you hav sex, but it's worth it to get you past that pint.
Also, body fluids going everywhere during sex is normal. If you're concerned about possibly being pregnant, then perform a pregnancy test. It'll do no good worrying bout that until you've actually missed a period, though. In the meantime, be a smart girl and use some form of birth control.
2006-10-29 18:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the relaxing part of it. Are you sure you're really ready to be having sex? Unless you want a baby or an std, you should always be practicing safe sex with condoms. Ok, that's all I have to say on that...
as for the rest of your questions...Your body produces it's own lubrication when you are aroused. Also your vaginal muscles should relax when you are aroused as well. Maybe you need more foreplay (oral or with fingers)... Try using a lubricant (KY Liquid works pretty well) for intercourse.
If you are having unprotected sex then there's always the chance of getting pregnant.
2006-10-29 19:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by vixen0babs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't wanna scare you, but based totally on what you've said, it sounds like Vaginismus. Lots of Vaginismus sufferers say they feel like there's a wall there. Check out this website (www.vaginismus.com) and see if it sounds like you. They also offer solutions if you think you do have Vaginismus. There is also a Yahoo! support group you might like to check out (if you have it). Hope it all works out though.
2006-10-29 22:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by * tj * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With me, it helped to use a condom.
It makes penetration easier.
Also, don't get frustrated if it's hard for you to relax.
If your boyfriend's willing to wait it out, and help you relax, instead of pressuring you, he's worth it.
If he gets frustrated, or angry,
DITCH HIM.
2006-10-29 18:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋