i know this sounds ridiculous but it isn't. a while ago my mom told me a bunch of things that she doesn't like about me, and she stopped talking to me, and basically wasn't even civil to me, its been like 2 weeks and she still doesn't want to be apart of my life. she talks to my brother and dad in such loving ways and engages in conversations with them, but NEVER does with me. I hate this, and i feel like i have no one to turn to! i hate her and i hate this whole situation! please help! I don't want to live in the same home as someone who doesn't want me to be apart of her life!!! thx in advance.
2006-10-29 10:39:10 · 26 answers · asked by prettyinpink<3<3 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i know the feeling. read my last question.
2006-10-29 13:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sounds terrible! Can you talk to your brother and dad about the situation to see if they can help you work things out? Or maybe approach your school counsellor? Nobody deserves that.
If it's any consolation, sometimes mothers identify a bit too much with their daughters, and the things she's criticizing in you may actually be the things she doesn't like about herself. It's unhealthy and awful, but it happens sometimes. A good therapist could really help a lot.
Big hugs.
2006-10-29 10:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Peggy M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom does not hate you. I agree w/the other person, you are young and may act like your treated so poorly and it is so unfair. The usual things teenagers do. Try to look at it from your moms point of view. Try to sit down w/her and be respectful to her. Ask, "Mom what can I do to make it right between us?". You get what you give in life and maybe she is just returning the stuff you have given her. Cut Mom some slack, you think it is tough being a teenager try to be the Mom of one. Good luck. Be nice.
2006-10-29 10:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similiar problem with my mother, and I refused to try to work it out, DON"T take that road hun. I wish that I had tried to talk with her, even a note or going to another family member to mediate. I am now 26, and have 2 kids, the only reason that we have anything at all to do eith each other is for them, and it is very hard on both of us. She has apologized, and so have I, but it is lost time and it puts a strain on the relationship we have tried to build. Keep trying to get through to her, does she have a sister that she is close with? or another famliy member that you could go to, and explain how this makes you feel? If so maybe they could help the two of you work through this. Best of luck
2006-10-29 11:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by Playful_Pandora 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i m 16 n i had thought of my mom didnt like me when i was 13. but as i grow, i understand that i might have done something bad that made my mom "hated" me like always being so impatient when she talked to me. did u talk to ur mom with an attitude? If ur mom really hates u, i think she would hv kicked u out already. What about ur brother and dad? did u ever try to talk to them about how u feel?
2006-10-29 11:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is write her a letter then send it in the mail. But make sure to tell her how you feel and that you love her. say sorry for all the bad actions you've done in the past. so write me an email of what happens. littlemonkeycutie is my email address
i am only 10 yrs old u??
2006-10-29 10:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but your mom sounds a little too immature for words. the fact she behaves worse than her daughter speaks volumes about her lack of character. perhaps its time to establish a better relationship with your father and forget about the psycho mom for a while.
i often think the point you become an adult is when you realize you have to be more mature than your parents. my dad and i were always fighting and one day i gave up. he still trys to fight w me years and years later but it takes 2 to have a fight. all he can do now is try.
i guess the best advice is learn to love her even if she is pyscho. if she rails on you learn to say 'love you anyway mom' and not fake it but really mean it. she is crazy -- learn to forgive her for it.
2006-10-29 10:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how old are you? I went through a stage like that with my mom. when i was about 16. its not really things she "hates" about you. When you are a teenager you think you know "everything" and really you dont, and the best advice my mom gave me was "everything" looking back she was RIGHT about it all! So listen to your mom! just sit together and talk it out, dont loose that relationship. Moms are the best friend you will ever have!
2006-10-29 10:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by JohnnaE 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Force her to talk to you by confronting her. Tell her how you feel about it (which is very hard, I know) and tell her some of the stuff that you don't like about her (only if you feel you want to). Try to fix things.
Wish you the best! Good luck!
2006-10-29 10:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by George 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it mite be that u r mean to her when i was growning up i had the same problems and it mite be that her baby is growing up .give her a few more days do stuff 4 her ,spend alittle more time at home and hopefully thing will get better good luck best wishes
2006-10-29 11:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by christine s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you able to confide in your dad? You should try to talk to him. Sounds like your mother may not know how she is acting, maybe your father can talk some sense into her!
2006-10-29 10:46:14 · answer #11 · answered by taral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋