2006-10-29 10:35:55 · 25 answers · asked by b 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Be there for her, don't push her to talk. Just be ready to listen if she want you too. And ensure that she know there is counselling services available to her.
(and make sure she doesn't listen to narrow minded people who say she has murdered a baby! She has just made one of the hardest decisions she will ever have to face. And she possibly made that choice on her own.She needs support not criticism. She certainly doesnt need forgiveness from anyone!!!)
2006-10-29 10:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ah! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to go into detail of how I feel about abortion or my beliefs because it's not the time for that right now. Just be there for your sister. She will need the love and support of a love one. No one knows her reason or reasons for getting an abortion. Let her know that she have to make it through this rough time in her life. Tell her to ask God for forgiveness so that she can get a peace of mind. She is not going to feel right until she admit that what she done was wrong.
2006-10-29 18:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be patient - she may never be the same. Most folks I know who have had abortions carry a very sorrowful hole in their heart forever and can have long term depression. Folks I know are generally sad and I don't know that one ever gets over it fully. They tend to be very sensitive for the rest of their lives. As time goes on they think of - well how old that baby would be and what they would be doing if they were alive. You just have to be there and be patient - encourage her to go through counseling and just be understanding. If you see warning signs of a serious depression, you'll need to contact social services and/or admit her to the hospital. More serious signs are talk of suicide, plans to commit suicide are even more serious. Any threats or plans to hurt herself must be taken seriously. She may need medication at some point, but I don't know the situation well enough to really recommend more than this.
2006-10-29 18:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be her shoulder to cry on. Listen, don't judge. Help to remind her of the reasons she made that decision and why it was the best one for her. And then help her to put a positive spin on things, like the someday when she is ready to have a baby it will be wonderful, not sorrowful like this. Remeber that she also could have a bit of baby blues depending on how far along she was, her horomones are most likely out of whack, which can contribute to her mood. It is obvious you care, so just support her. You will be able to take your cues from her as to what she needs. If she gets very severe find someone else to help you guys that has experience dealing with this sort of thing. I think Planned Parenthood offers people to talk to you about decisions and effects. Take care.
2006-10-29 18:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that she had an abortion all though I am totally against it. If you play then you must pay. I sure hope this has taught her a lesson, but the only thing you can do is be supportive, obviously you can't change her mind, its' too late! I have never had an abortion, but I have had a miscarriage, and it sticks with you for a long time, but any support and encouragement she can get will help her out tremendously.
2006-10-29 18:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just be there for her, some of us take it really badly but for some women it's just like a trip to the dentist.
I feel that is one of the worst things a woman should have to go through, but sometimes situations don't allow you to do what you want. She'll be feeling crappy about her self but as with most other things times will make it easier to deal with. Just be a shoulder for her and let her know that she's not alone, don't say things like "you did the right thing" because she won't feel that she has, go and make her a nice cup of hot chocolate.
2006-10-29 18:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by holmegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that. Most women feel deep regret after their abortions - it is very common to feel that way. I never had one but I know a few women who did and they were very sad after for many years.
She might need counseling with a member of clergy or a counselor. You can encourage her to talk about how she feels and try to be a good listener and don't judge her. Just show her love and understanding.
2006-10-29 18:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that you should do is to help her find a support group. They will sometimes have them through your church...or just through Planned Parenthood. Even though it was her choice to do this, it can be very hard on someone.
The other thing to do is just be there for her. Let her know that you are around if she needs to talk. Sometimes it takes a while for someone to be able to talk about this...but it will happen and just knowing that you are there for her will probably help tremendously.
2006-10-29 18:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by lissachck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I know os is to just supprt her, no matter if it was the right thing to do or not. It is done now, and nothing can change that fact. She will probobly fell a lot of guilt for a while, so just tell her you are there to listen and to be a sholder to cry on. Good luck!
2006-10-29 18:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by andi_sue_storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be able to talk through her feelings, she may be feeling remorse/guilt/regret etc and she needs to talk to people who will listen to her without judging her. Can you be that person? Does she have friends she can talk to? If its really bad and shes finding it really hard to cope with professional help should be sort. Surely the clinic where she had the abortion will have/know therapists who can help her work through her unresolved feelings. It will help her to talk about things instead of bottling them inside.
2006-10-29 19:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by Smiley One 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋