i REALLY love my fiance, and he is honestly one of the most beautiful men I've ever seen, but for some reason I don't want to have sex with him anymore. I questioned whether i had just gone off sex, but when I think about other sexy men I still feel like I would want to! have you ever experienced this?
2006-10-29 10:24:31 · 9 answers · asked by rachel 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, you can. There's more than one type of love. He might fill your emotional needs and you might find him attractive but that doesn't mean you're going to want to have sex with him. There are people that I would love to kiss but I would never want to be in a relationship with. Likewise there are people I want to be in a relationship with but I don't know if I'd want anything more than kissing and holding hands from them.
2006-10-29 10:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by lady.ceridwen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, get it sorted in your mind..before taking that leap into marriage. Eventually he will want to know what the problem is and better to sort it out now rather than later.
Could be you are bored with the whole thing and need a break away from him for a while, so that you can put your feelings into context.
It is not unusual to feel this way, especially if he is your first real love. Maybe you think the grass is greener..it seldom is.
You can love someone deeply, but not want sex with that person.
Why not make an appointment with a relate counsellor...on your own And talk this through with someone who has the expertise to help you through this.
Good luck! Annette x
2006-10-29 10:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can still love them. There is such thing as love without sex.
However, there has to be a reason why you suddenly switched off him but not off sex altogether. It doesn't necessarily mean that you don't love him and it's your libido's way of telling you, but it doesn't bode well for anything. I recommend talking to a counselor, talking to yourself, and finally, when things are straightened out or even before, talking to him.
The last thing you want to do, though, is deny him sex without explanation or commit him to a relationship without him knowing beforehand that there may or may not be sex involved. If the problem persists and you do tell him, make it very clear that it's not him that's the problem, it's something inside of you that you need to work out.
Hope everything goes well!
2006-10-29 10:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thrill is gone. It happens. You've become more like brother and sister, or close friends, not lovers.
Think up a way to spice it up, or forget about it. If you already feel this way before you're married and can't get over it, think of how you'll feel after you've been married for five years. Assuming the marriage lasted that long, that is.
2006-10-30 07:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe this can happen but I wonder if there isn't something going on inside of your heart or mind you aren't realizing concerning your fiance? Not physically but emotionally. This happened in my marriage and that's what it came down to, I had some hidden resentment. Be sure you get this worked out before you get married. I wish you both the best!
2006-10-29 10:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by Brianne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you are bored of sex with your partner, maybe because you do the same sexual routine every time. the way to go with this is to communicate with your partner what you want sexually. try fantasies together, dressing up, making out in public places and get some toys for you both to use to add some variation. try getting him to make love to you, as un-like most men, i know there is a difference between the two.
2006-10-29 11:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by madjedi32x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Ur not weird. U cud just be going thru a slump. Maybe u need to spice things up w/ new positions in the bedroom.
2006-10-30 10:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not uncommon. Do NOT marry him until you figure this out. It could be a passing phase, or it could be that he isn't "the one". Time will tell. Just *don't* get married until you know for sure.
Good luck, and go easy on yourself. The right answers will happen.
2006-10-29 10:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger Sling 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
this too will pass
2006-10-29 10:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by outlaw64 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋