Do any of you have a spouse that is just "too nice"? Strange question I know....But my husband is always so nice to me.....I may or may not deserve it and it is just making me sick to my stomache actually.....I am not sure why but it does bother me.
2006-10-29 10:17:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is normal for you to feel - we all like to know that other people are "just human", and when your spouse seems perfect it can annoy you, make you jealous, or just plain uneasy.
2006-10-29 10:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by michielev 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what too nice means. But if you feel this way you should really look in to yourself. There must be something that makes you feel you don't deserve it. As long as you are on the up and up you should definitely enjoy it. Besides the other alternative would be to have a spouse that treats you like dirt. Doesn't feel good trust me. Besides even the nice ones get tired of being pushed away.
2006-10-29 19:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just don't understand how people can say that you are being to nice. My wife did say the same thing when we were first married but over the years have come to accept it. But my wife means the world to me and there is nothing that I won't do for her. Well actually there is one thing that I wouldn't do that is change the way I was treating her. Yes, we have been married for ten wonderful years and while there has been many ups and downs we have a happy marriage together
2006-10-29 18:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right it is a very STRANGE question. If your spouse is being nice to you dont you feel that that is how it should be? Is a marriage about loving each other? Be happy with what you have becuase if it stops youll miss it!
2006-10-29 18:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by tadpoles2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I did have a spouse that was to nice and man did I blow it bad with her. Don"t make the same mistake, if you really have that kind of a man enjoy every bit of it you can and don't take advantage of it just give a little back. good luck and enjoy
2006-10-29 18:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by john_borst2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like either you do not respect your husband or you have such a bad self image that you don't think you deserve kindness. Either or these scenarios is a bad one so you need to figure out which it is and if its the first scenario figure out what your problem is and if its the second you probably need to talk to a professional about it. Good luck.
2006-10-29 18:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
And have you told him that?
My ex-wife was mostly overbearingly "nice" to me... until I totally had enough of her and told her to leave me alone, and then she would be depressed for a while... and gradually work her way back to point A again... (but then she was bipolar)...
Chances are that you don't really want him to be not-nice... That is to say you'll probably only get two choices: Nice.... or absolutely demonic.... and anything inbetween would only be a really poorly acted show.
2006-10-29 18:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather he be mean to you? In the past I was with mean bad ***'s. I felt the same about nice men.
Now, I wouldn't give up my "nice" man for anything in the world. Try to appreciate what you have.
2006-10-29 18:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By "too nice", do you mean that he's a people pleaser? Some people have a hard time saying no even when they want to. It can become very annoying.
2006-10-29 19:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to seek some counseling and find out what is going on with you that you do not feel you deserve someone to treat you so nicely. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-29 18:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋