my hubby and I have always had a healthy sex life, but I have always had a higher drive than him. Lately its bothering me mad but if I say something he just says I have the prob cause I ,want to much sex. I just would like to have it more thatn once a week, im only 31, him 31 also. what can I do? I think sex is kinda important!
2006-10-29 10:11:35 · 13 answers · asked by lisa b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take him to the doctor for a physical. He may have lower levels of testosterone than he used to. This is easy to fix with a supplement.
2006-10-29 10:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 10 yrs but with my hubby for 16 yrs all together now. And I am going throw this stage myself,where I don't want sex any more. And I went to the hospital to be involved in the study about decreased sexual desire,but I could not be part of it because they felt I should see my doctor because some of the questions they asked me came back to that I might be depressed and need some med's to help with that,They told me that being depressed can make some ones sex drive go down or even stop all together.And someone can be depressed with out even knowing they are.I wish you the best of luck,and don't go find sex with some other person because it will only tare your marriage apart.Work things out with him and get some help.
2006-10-29 18:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am 32. been married once for 5 years. sex was always a big part of marriage as long as everything was good between us. and that just doesn't always happen. anyways. got divorce...not because of that but because he wanted to party and drink and not help with the family he helped to create. i am now in my 2nd year relationship with my boyfriend and sex or as he would put it "love making" is a very big part. i know i went through a month where it was something with me...i mean i was kinda depressed and wondering do i really want to be with this man the rest of my life? sex was still great just not as often. like once a week unlike our usual 3 or 4 times a week. but once i got over what was bothering me, cause it was a combination of things not just him or our relationship, there were finances, kids and me going back to school...so life can make things tough. I also started going back to our fun stuff like, massages, oils, candles, our sunday night foot soaks together, long kissing sessions and then trying to hold out as long as we could with out making love or play a game of touch here and there with lips or a feather, we have gotten really creative and it always sparks interest whether u think it will or not. but he is always up for anything or if i don't or he doesn't feel like making love because we are tired or whatever, we never make each other feel bad, we always say we have the rest of our lives together to make love and sleep, and have fun.
2006-10-29 18:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by michelle b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's takes two to tango and it sounds like you might need to put some spice in your lives. If you're doing the same things now that you were 8 years ago, the novelty's probably worn thin. Try some sexy lingerie, massage oils, change your love making scene from the bedroom to the kitchen, from 11 at night to 11am on a Saturday morning. Be adventurous and risque! You two know each other intimately so take off the kid gloves and seduce him in ways he's never even dreamt of!
2006-10-29 18:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by STEVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Merried 7 years now my sweetheart and I have sex 3 times a week and four if we can get a sitter. But this was not always the case I too did not want to have sex much andour problem was not her or her wanting it more or to much or anything, it was me and STRESS, Talking is the best answer for this and keep an open mind you might here things that are hard to believe or except. good luck and enjoy.
2006-10-29 18:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by john_borst2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 16yrs now and I too have that problem! In my case, it's something that we have not fully resolved. I can find sex else where, but then why should I stay married. My advise to you is to let him know that it's a problem for you that you're not beening satisfyed in the sexual realm of your marriage and it's time that you address it before, other problems arise!
2006-10-29 18:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by DARRYL J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to figure out why he doesn't want to have sex more than one day a week. maybe you can do freaky stuff to get him in the mood more
2006-10-29 18:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some differant Stuff to make it fun
2006-10-29 18:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wont give it up find it somewhere else before it turns into a big fight and years from now you will hate him
2006-10-29 18:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, it is very important, perhaps you should take him to the doctor and see if he is having a medical problem. good luck and god bless
2006-10-29 18:14:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋