This guy and I have strong feelings for one another but we are both in a relationship. I cant leave my circumstances and neither can he at the moment. Should I stick around and see if it will work out or do I move on.
2006-10-29 09:53:06 · 13 answers · asked by Helpmeplease 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is tough for you I know, sometimes its best just to smile & go on with your present life, so many others lives can be affected when we step out of our boundries & pursue something like this, not just yours and his, but your partners & families,and then it may not work out, esp since you really havent been around this person enough to know if you could really be happy in a life with them. Think of what you have & would stand to lose, weigh your options & move on. Nothing is set in stone & there may be a chance in the future for you and him if its meant to be.
2006-10-29 10:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by lesa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people are in relationships and someone else may strike their fancy. This, however, could be a temporary "fancy" and once the fancy feeling stops, they find themselves in the same predicament as the previous relationship.
Perhaps you should think about what is happening in the current relationship before moving to another one. It might seem that you are just going through a stage; perhaps you and your current partner are so accustomed to one another, the "newness" has left and it just needs some spicing up.
Also, consider if you really have strong feelings for this other guy or is it simply that you want more in a relationship. If this is so, can you get that from your current partner? What are the things you are looking for? What prevents you from having it with the current partner? What's so special about the new guy? If he has feelings for you while he is in a relationship, does it concern you that he may do the same thing again if you and he were to get together?
There are lots of things to consider before you take that step of leaving the situation you are now in. Often, it is not a good thing to jump out of a relationship into a new one so soon. Let time come in between and some mental processing before you make that decision.
2006-10-29 10:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your both in Lust, not in Love. Leave him alone, If you both were
really in love, then you would of left each others significant other
behind when you and he felt something for one another. LOVE should never keep you apart if he standing right in front of you.
If your serious then tell your partner now that you want to leave
don't make him look like a fool. And if you break up and the guy
your talking about is still with his significant other then he just wanted a peace of *** from you and he knew you were willing to give it up.
2006-10-29 10:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The honorable thing to do is end the first relationship. You must be whole and free before you can "love" another. As Dr Phil would say, do a relationship autopsy. Why is the first one dying? Why haven't you removed yourself from it? Don't get involved with someone who can't deal honestly with their relationships. Do you really want the same treatment? good luck
2006-10-29 10:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by realjustice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a guy who really loved this girl. but things weren't right.
he waited 7 years for her. they seemed like a few days cuz his love was so strong.
If you love him be patient. maybe God will see and work things out. Have a little faith. maybe it's supposed to be, maybe not.
peace out,
frankie C
2006-10-29 09:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on..leave him alone, he's in another relationship..how would you feel if a guy was cheating on you?
2006-10-29 09:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by twilight65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to anyone who quotes DR Phil because he is a *** and who made him the relationship king GOD dont think so anyway good luck with it and you do what you have to do and dont let someone else influence your choices other wise you will wake up one morning hateing yourself.
2006-10-29 10:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...you are both in a relationship right now....the healthy choice would be to focus on what you have right now instead of what can be....better for all involved
2006-10-29 10:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by bald_guy69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on work on what you have unless thi person is feeling the same way your wasting your time and energy
2006-10-29 10:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by icecoldpolar7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and leave him alone.
2006-10-29 09:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋