My little girl entered puberty at the age of 6, now she's asking me questions that I find difficult to answer at her young age. Although physically she appears 14-15 yrs lod , emotionally she's only 11. How do I approuch such a tender topic w/o doing her harm, or lying to her? (Which I've never done)
2006-10-29 09:43:38 · 18 answers · asked by shesonit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she's asking you where babies come from, rent 'The Miracle of Life' and have her watch it. Goes through the whole process from start to finish.
If she's asking about sex, be honest. Tell her what you expect from her and be very serious and very specific. Chances are she'll want to talk to her friends about it. Make sure she understands it's not her responsibility to do that, it's the responsibility of the other kids' parents.
Let her know about men and what men want. Let her know how important it is for her to understand that and keep an eye and an ear open for guys who will try to take advantage of her.
Tell her she can choose to have sex when she reaches a certain age but that if she does, she is taking a chance on ruining her life, getting a nasty reputation, and disappointing you.
Above all, tell her to always ask you if she EVER has any questions or concerns. Tell her you love her no matter what and you'll always be ther for her.
2006-10-29 09:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As difficult as it seems, you're going to have to answer her because if she doesn't find out from u...she's going to find out from someone else, and that person may not give the advice that you want her to follow. Be honest with her because then she'll remain open with u and talk to you. You don't want her to shut you out and not tell u anything i'm assuming. How much or little u tell her is up to you. Just because u talk to her about it, doesn't mean that u have to go into every explicit detail...remember that mentally she is her age....so she'll be dealing with thoughts and such like an 11 yr old, not a 14-15 year old....good luck!
2006-10-29 09:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by kristina807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay...well first of all...how the hell can she enter puberty at 6? if she is mature, okay. but puberty is a whole other subject, get ur vocabulary right sweetie. how my parents raised and continue to raise me, this is my opinion. she is freakin 11!! of course she is going to be interested in boys, it is normal. and your job as a parent is to make sure her interest doesn't go to far. but anyways...tell her the truth. be honest, tell her how guys are, answer her questions, be cool. parents that keep their children from the real world are retarded. if you dont tell your daughter what is going on now, then the worst that could happen is she finds out from a guy...and you know where that goes. you dont want that happening! so you have to let her know whats going on. if she is soo mature and bla bla like you say she is, she probably already knows about all that stuff. dont worry about stupid stuff like that, just make sure that she doesnt end up acting like a future prostitute.
-honesty =]
2006-10-29 09:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cassie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer her questions honestly with the correct verbage (correct names of body parts, etc) but do it briefly. Do not give long drawn out explanations. Very short brief but correct and honest is the best. You do not need to bombard her with allot of information just enough to answer the question. I f you find this difficult, then have her write the questions down and make a list for the doctor to discuss with her at your next visit.
2006-10-29 09:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by LADY PJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything and everything you discuss on the topic please relate it to marriage, marriage, marriage. Stress that and you'll find the topic easier to discuss. Say only what you feel she will understand or find out what she thinks she knows and try to put it in a better way. You are right to teach your child...if you dont...someone else will, or they'll try to find out on their own haphazardly in most cases.
Good luck. Take your time. No need to give to her all in one sitting. Let her absorb little by little over the years. Oh, and in no way is she a woman...a woman can bear children, raise children mentally and physically without dieing usually. :) ;) Peace.
2006-10-29 09:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and just be honest with her. If you have a book about puberty and growing up to go along with the talk, it might be easier. Try to keep an open mind.
2006-10-29 09:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by toya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it may be a tender topic, but she is going to have to know these things. If you lie to her, her ignorange in the matter will only lead her into situations in which she is too naive to know what she's getting into...you do not want to be a grandmother in two years. Be honest and thorough with her, she'll thank you for it later.
2006-10-29 09:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by HoneyBee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your 11 year old is not a woman, whether she entered puberty or not. Give her time to be a child. Answer her questions as you are talking to what she is.....a child.
2006-10-29 10:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lalalalalala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth so she knows now instead of making serious mistakes later.There are books,doctor's that will help.Be thankful she has enough trust in you to ask you.Now reaffirm her trust by giving her the information she needs to grow up healthy and emotionally.
2006-10-29 09:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 10year old and i find that being honest about what ever they ask you is the best thing to do i think its better for them to come to you then someone who you dont even know be up front open minded and it wont hurt them that if you dont keep a open mind they wont come to you when they have a problem or questions good luck
2006-10-29 09:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by icecoldpolar7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋