i really do love him.every five months he comes back.he is influenced by his father,that has been married and divorced 5 times,and working on number 6.when we are together its really good between us,but when we are apart,we dont even speak to each other.i really need advice about this.
2006-10-29 09:42:53 · 9 answers · asked by paula m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find somewhere else to be in five months and see what happens when you are no longer there to welcome him with open arms. You have to tell him you're tired of being on this see-saw with him and you need to move on. You can love him all you want, but it doesn't mean you're meant to be togther or be married.
2006-10-29 09:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well hun a relationship is always good when you are only in it for a few months at a time it seems that you two aren't mature enough to stay in this marriage. It comes with hard times and lots of good ones too but you have to stay TOGETHER to make it work. So you have to decide either stay together all the time or get divorced. No matter if you love him or not it isn't going to work if you are going back and forth, not to mention if you have are are considering having kids this will screw them up big time.
2006-10-29 17:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by littlemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I read this right.....2 years married.....separated 3 times...each time he is gone for 5 months....so the total time together married is= 8 months.
Sounds like a roller coaster of emotions.
I would ask myself.....do I want to live like this forever?
What happens during the 5 months that you are apart?
Is he faithful during this time, are you willing to think of this all the time?
What if you have children, what will this teach them.
Ouch....Search your heart...
Is it worth it?
Best wishes
2006-10-29 18:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love conquers all things. If you two really love each other, Go find someone smarter than you and talk this out. a good councellor.
there are so many factors to consider. I think sometimes we think if we love someone, or are at least attracted to them, we ought not have problems. but then I think, probably, as long as I'm alive, I'm gonna have problems.
If I work out, I get in shape, if I eat cookies I get fat.
if I neglect my wife or listen to bad advice, I'll be in trouble.
If you really love each other, go find someone who can help you.
Just a thought, maybe it wouldn't hurt to read the bible.
peace out
frankie C.
2006-10-29 17:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to just put an end to it..
Go ahead with the divorce..
make a better choice of men next time..
2006-10-29 18:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to him and his father, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Either he lets his father control him or he doesn't. Let him know he needs to stop acting like his father and be a real man. Otherwise you have no use for him.
2006-10-29 17:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your husband, that's another problem. But you-need to see a psychologist as soon as possible.
2006-10-29 17:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Desperado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an idiot. Nothing anyone can say will have the slightest effect on you.
2006-10-29 18:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop letting him come back , hes a wanderer that's bad , bad for u
2006-10-29 17:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋