Giving up hope?

Question

We have been ttc for 13 months now partners sperm count fine. I have reg periods and Ovulate monthly, we are going for more tests.
I just cant even imagine i will ever become pregnant now i just think it will never happen for us, i have not been stressing out abt it but would just so love to be a mum this is all i have ever wanted out of life i just wish it would happen.!?

Answer 1

You know what? This might sound really stupid, but I used to work in a Fertility Clinic and there were just some people with nothing obviously wrong who just had real problems conceiving. The strange thing was that there was a larger percentage than you would imagine who, when they just gave up, spontaneously conceived with no intervention. Of course, this doesn't always happen, but just try giving yourself a break where you don't try, you don't predict ovulation etc etc and just see what happens. Good luck.

Answer 2

I have wanted to be a mum and gave up on it as I have poly cystic ovarian syndrome and I never started my periods. I was told I would not conceive without IVF treatment. At the end of last year I was seeing a man who had had a vasectomy 12 years ago, and had three tests done over the course of 2 years to make sure it was a success. It was, however he is one of the 1 in 10,000 who's tubes re-tied.

I now have a healthy 3 month old baby boy. Don't give up hope, it will happen when it happens. I never dreamed I would be a mother, but I am, I have a little miracle, and if I can get pregnant like that anyone can!

While you are waiting, enjoy life and lie ins! Good luck!

Answer 3

Hello there. Hang in a little longer!

My wife and I were trying to have our first child over a period of 10 months. We tried ovulation tests at the end and finally decided to lay off for a few months. It turns out that we may have been pressuring things a bit too much.

Two months later, we took an ovulation test (just to be sure), we proceeded....you get the idea... and were finally successful. We had a normal pregnancy and all was well.

I can tell you from experience that diet, overall health and stress (of both people) can take a toll on the success. Make sure it's a team effort.

Best of luck. I hope you find happiness soon!

Answer 4

You stick with it and stay happy and positive! It doesn't sound like anything is wrong but go for the extra tests just to put your mind at rest. Bear in mind that the average healthy woman has only a 20 percent chance of conceiving each month but remember that nature intended you to reproduce so it will happen. You are only just over the one year mark that it takes the average couple to conceive, so things aren't quite that bad. I know how it can get you down each month but hang in there for as long as you have to...don't give up hope! Check out some websites that give you lots of information on trying to conceive, it will keep you positive and help you realise you aren't doing anything wrong and that your month when the timing is perfect will come.

Answer 5

I've been in the same position and it's sooooooo frustrating. There is nothing we can say on here that can make it any easier. I would say try and not compare yourself to those around though and don't let it become an obbsession. I never did but I saw women who did and it became increasingly hard for them to fall pregnant. I know this is little comfort but if you have a fertility issue remember you're not alone. One in four couples need some kind of help to conceive a baby. You have my best wishes. I hope you get your longed for baby soon.

Answer 6

you have forgotten sex is suppose to be enjoyable, be very careful not to get obsessed besides it could bring a rift between you an your partner, it could b the reason your not getting pregnant the stress, the over thinking, planning, disappointment an of course the feeling of inadequacy. take time out work on your relationship, a course, your job anything but keep yourself and your mind occupied on other things. it will happen in its own time. just enjoy each other 4 a while without the added pressure. good luck.

Answer 7

some people try for years and then suddenly it happens, so don't give up too soon

stress seems to be a factor - it seems much easier to conceive when you are relaxed

you have to have lots & lots of sex from day 6 onwards (don't wait until day 14) - some people think 1 or 2 times is enough, or start too late in the cycle

also, a good healthy diet & regular exercise can really help

hope this helps & good luck!
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Answer 8

you really need to relax dont think about it . enjoy some time together if there are no problems with either of you it can take up to 3 years to become pregant i know some women fall just like that and others can take years dont worry. In the end i did give up after trying for 15 years but i had a lot of medical problems which i did eventually come to terms with just give yourself chance

Answer 9

You just have to give it time. My husband and I tried for 9 years. Two years into it I went to a fertility specialist. She put me on fertility drugs and nothing worked. We started to talk about adoption when I found out I was pregnant.(I was 5 months along!)

Actually, I know several couples that tried, failed and decided to adopt only to become pregnant!

Personally, I think it was God's way of seeing just how badly you want a child. When you are willing to open your heart to adopt, that is when it happens! And if you don't get pregnant, then at least you know you are still going to be a mommy to a very special person.

Answer 10

I totally understand how you feel. My husband and I have also been trying for a while. It can take some couples up to 2 years to conceive. The advice I was give was to have sex every 2 to 3 days to boost chances of conceiving. Dont give up and I really hope it happens for you soon.