i have found another man and he is really nice although he is single and a few years older than me. i have started a kind of covert relationship with him but my husband is still living under the same roof until after christmas. what do you think that my new love is thinking about this. i have 3 kids under 6. is he just using me or should i carry on?
2006-10-29 09:30:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Use this situation to your advantage, it will force you to do the right thing for everyone involved. Ask your new love what he thinks about your situation with your husband. I bet it makes him uncomfortable for numerous reasons and I bet your husband would be more comfortable with you waiting to date until you are not living under the same roof.
Tell your husband that you want to use the time left where you both are under the same roof as a transition time to prepare yourselves as well as the children for what is to come. Make that transition a priority (over your new relationship, over your divorce). Suggest to him going out on dates, either with friends or actual dates to prepare the kids for the concept that when you live separate Mom or Dad may act as babysitter for the other when they go out. Then go out on dates but don't bring him home to your husband.
2006-10-29 09:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by BLANK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW why are you rushing into another relationship before you are even out of this one?? or....is this breakup because of this new relationship...listen Laverne...sometimes we get bored of our lives and having 3 kids under 6 indicates what sort of life you are living, a single older man probably seems pretty exciting to you...but don't forget...he probably likes things the way they are but when you have to start factoring the kids into the scenario...he must just hit the road and you will be left holding the bag.
2006-10-29 09:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. He'll catch on or catch you. Either way, you'll be in some hot water because you won't look good having a relationship when you're married with children.
But if you MUST be with this man, I doubt anything we say will stop you. And yes, I believe he is just using you. If he were interested in being with you in a real relationship fuctioning with you and maybe your kids, he would probably hold off until your husband were at least out of the house.
2006-10-29 10:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow what's the hurry....
And telling your husband well is needed but do you think he will take it well?
Take some me time out from the men...you don't have to b partnered up to be happy you need alone-me heal time to avoid the same mistakes and history....the old song only fools rush in is true it's foolish.
2006-10-29 10:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's cold harted of you to do this.You are risking on losing your family.have you ever thought how much your going to hurt your spouse if he finds out?How would you feel if he was doing the same thing to you?
2006-10-29 14:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by Casper77mc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ho Ho Ho
2006-10-29 10:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋