I dont want to lose her and would give that or anything else to be married to her. We get along and love each other perfectly. Its just who I am and I want to be honest with her and also get ideas from her on how we should handle it.
2006-10-29 09:30:11 · 13 answers · asked by Fun Couple 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if it was reversed, a guy would be all for bringing in another women...
this is obviously different then telling her you want to bring in another women, cause most women would take that as "what, i'm not a good enough woman for you?"
but bringing in another guy is tough...she might not take it as harshly as a if you were recomending a woman, but she may feel insulted bieng that you want to bring another person into your relationship.
try telling her about some friend she's never met, that told his wife he is bi..."so a friend from work told his wife he is bi, and they brought a man into the relationship...I've never heard of such a thing...what do you think the wife thought when he told her?...." and see how she responds..."oh wow, lucky her...two men!" or "wow, thats awefull, she must feel so insufficiant in the marraige"... test the grounds first
that would be the first step...based off of that, maybe you'll need to ask another question...
2006-10-29 09:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by redims81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW MAN!!! Well i am gay so take what i say with some salt or vodka. I think you should for sure tell her! But you have to perpare yourself that she might not be willing to stay with you. She will need to think about what her friends and family and co-worker will say about her. That is your partner and your lifestyle now affects her. I think you should sit her down at home one day when you two are by yourself. She is going to have feelings that she needs to express and a public place is not best for that. I think you need to think about the questions she may have (i mean you should know your wife and what type of person she is) so that you can have some kind of answer for her. And then rememer you want to express to her that she does please you and you dont want to loose her. Try not to make her feel like you need a male more that you need her. or that she is not giving you anything. Make her feel like the biggest and best part of your life however you still have another said that you would like to express and share with her.
Kisses
Cairo
2006-10-29 09:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by Cairo St. James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds kinda selfish, especially for two people that, "love each other perfectly". It looks like you want what's best for you and screw everyone else! Maybe your love is not as perfect as you think? At least on your part. Stop tryin to sugar coat the issue by making yourself look like this wonderful, great concerned person. Just go do what you've already decided to do? Your wife should handle it by kickin your butt out!!!
2006-10-29 09:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to know if you have ever done anything together (3 some) to suggest that you are bisexual? If nothing has ever been suggested or implied, I would suggest that you slowly edge into a conversation or go some where that bisexuallity is evident, and see how see handles the situation. Her response or lack of, should give you some clue as to how open she will be to accepting your new information.
2006-10-29 09:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by LADY PJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont want to loose her but you want to share the one part of your life that basically whipes out the definition of marriage. its just who you are ya think she might of wanted to know this before she got married to you thinking you were someone else gee what a swell guy, I dont know I dont think its natural i'm sorry something about it , i guess people fear what they dont know or understand but the bottom line here no matter who or what its with it cheating and you took a vow i'd get over it its the same basically as asking her to cheat w/another woman so no unless you two got something going on that I cant imagine GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-29 10:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted to be honest with her, you should have told her before you married her! Now is a hell of a time to spring this on her! What would you do if the shoe was on the other foot and she told you she was bisexual?
2006-10-29 09:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you want to sleep with other people.. I dont see how it matters what gender they are. The fact is you want to sleep with other people. Youre either asking her for a divorce, or asking for an open relationship or threesomes. Good luck with that..
2006-10-29 09:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by Phil S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would take her out to dinner and just the two of her and tell her that you love and want to be with her and it wont change you relarion ship and then tell her you are bi because im 12 and im bi
2006-10-29 09:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by makayla b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First stop kidding yourself and lying, you are homosexual and want sex with a man..so stop the bi bollocks. Tell her what you have done and had done to you, and what you want, and if she is still with you at the end..then she deserves everything she gets.......
2006-10-29 09:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm, I suggest you get the phone book and start looking for a lawyer. She ain't gonna take it well.
2006-10-29 12:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by devlish_blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋