you hang out with these group of girl,including your sister, everyday. they know that you and this guy are trying to get together.at first they liked him and was happy for you two. Then one of your friends start saying that he's a whore and that he ain't know good. Your own sister sit back and say that too and even let them call her one of his whores and cuse you out. Should you still hang with them? Me , i been telling them off and telling them to stay out my bussiness. i can't take to much of their mess. what should I do and how should i handle this situation?
2006-10-29 09:04:41 · 9 answers · asked by cherry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dear Cherry, I'm assuming you are still pretty young, (under 20),and I also know how important relationships are to young people, but take it from a 'less' than young person who can look back and realize just how trivial it all seems now. So my answer to you is make a list of all the THINGS that are important to you as a person and then go down the list and see how the guy MEASURES up against this list. When it comes right down to it ,it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, but you.But trust me, don't go against you logical feelings,because young 'men' tend to have one goal in mind...and seldom is it in the best interest of any young girl. Make him pass your test. Good luck.
2006-10-29 09:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, they are jealous. Girls see one of their friends get a guy that they have wanted for awhile and they make up stuff in turn of their jealousy. Just ignore them, they aren't your real friends if they are doing that. If they were, they would be truly happy for you and wouldn't be saying anything to you about it. You should focus on the two of you now and be happy with each other. They'll eventually quit once they know it doesn't bother you a bit.
2006-10-29 17:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by Eric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider this: might they have a point? Calling him a whore is imbecilic, because unless he's gay, that couldn't apply. Whore refers to women who do it for money. Perhaps they mean "whore monger?" Which is a guy who visits prostitutes, etc. Regardless, they're just talking trash. They don't like him. Choose your friends wisely. Ask your sister why she doesn't like this guy. Ask her if she is trying to hurt you. Don't be confrontational or rude, tell her it upsets you.
2006-10-29 17:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by robert r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is you who will be with this guy not them so either you will make mistakes its for you to learn but for now its your life. don't let other ruin it. every experience makes you more matured in handling your life with or without friends who is not a real friend. a real friend is who cares, don't put you down, support you, help you to see things in the positive way. not distroying the oNE you love. its your heart that matters. if they can't take it coz possible they envy you who could easily get a good guy step back from them slowly. tell them what you feel. don't let them control your destiny. but motherly advise check the guy yourself. asked the people who knows him not his friends of course they will tell either good or bad that well confused you again. take the realtionship slowly to each heights by being honest each other. KNOW... KNOW HIM FIRST YOURSELF. OK SWEATHEART? GOODLUCK. JUST BE HAPPY LET YOUR FRIENDS AND SISTER CRITICIZE HIM. HE HAD NOTHING TO PROVED TO THEM EVEN TO YOU. IF HE LIKES OR LOVE YOU. HE WILL SHOW IT IN HIS OWN WAY. ITS FOR YOU TO DECIDE LATER IF YOU LOVE HIM YOU ACCEPT HIM AND HELP HIM TO CHANGE IF THATS WHAT YOUR FRIENDS ACCUSED HIM. LASTLY PRAY FOR THEM . GOODLUCK
2006-10-29 17:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by starjelly2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from them.If you and this guy really like each other then you need to keep him.They probabally like him too.Thats why they are doing this to you.To maby split you guys up to have him for themselves.So stay with him if you really like him or love him.But its up to you if your friends or your man is more important.You never know if there trying to protect you of getting hurt if they've seen him with another girl and this is how they tell you.So just sit down with them and ask them.Or just secretly date him if you can't decide.
2006-10-29 17:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're your friends, they want the best for you. They are probably concerned that your bf will hurt you. They are just trying to look out for you. Tell them that you like the guy, and that is that, and you want them to stop bugging you about it. You don't have to be mean about it though.
2006-10-29 17:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Becca M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like the first guy said! but if your feiends were REALY you friends they would stick wit you know matter what!
2006-10-29 17:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your friends are jealous. Stick to what you want, and if they cant deal with it, get new friends.
2006-10-29 17:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose the guy, no guy is worth a friendship!!!!!!
2006-10-29 17:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by baby-k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋