ok, she use to be my best friend, but shes now my best friend. ya, this year we really havnt gotten a long much this year, but the day before she became my best enemy, we had gotten along like nothing was wrong between us. then the next day, she was saying i was having a ********* fit, but i really wasnt, so i called her a ho, (cuz she kinda is) and it kinda went from there. then she sent me an email calling me a stupid *********, saying how much she hated me, and another saying that no one liked me, they all liked her. but heres the funny thing, i dont hate her.
so, what do i do. i dont want to be the first to appologize, i dont even want to tlak to her anymore, but how can i just get her to leave me a lone and to just piss off???????????
2006-10-29 08:42:01 · 4 answers · asked by sesso*E 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
so, should i kill he with kindness, that what ur sayign???????
2006-10-29 08:50:29 · update #1
When I feel a friend has done or said something that made me feel angry or hurt, I have learned to assess the level of the friendship to determine how to respond to the situation. I ask myself these questions; How deep/solid is it? Do I really think he/she meant to be unkind? Could I have misunderstood something? Am I being overly sensitive? I look at whether or not I am willing to risk losing that friend if they get angry and end the friendship over it.
If it is a "not so deep" friendship, I may not say anything and simply avoid a similar situation with that person. If I decide to test it I go ahead and try talking it out, figuring that if it doesn't work I haven't lost much.
If I feel that the friendship is a good one, and that I'd like it to continue, I will gently approach the subject and share own my feelings, as just that, MY feelings, not making accusations or blaming the other person and telling the other person that I value their friendship and want us to be open, honest and clear with each other.
So often disagreements come from misunderstandings and can be cleared easily by both people being open and honest. I have had great success in relationships this way. No one is perfect no matter how much you like them and they like you. You have to make allowances and be somewhat tolerant of the other's idiosyncrasies.
2006-10-29 10:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Marti1owl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but this really sound like middle school stuff.
If her friendship is not important to you, just stay away from her and go on with your life.
If it is, give her and yourself time to cool off and then try having a mature, civilized conversation about your differences and see if you both can work it out and save the friendship. With people you care about and are worth keeping in your life, it doesn't matter who apologizes first.
2006-10-29 08:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Calina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if shes gonna be like that dont apolagize. dont talk to her. if she talks to u smother her with kindness. find another friend that u can depend on and trust.
2006-10-29 08:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have two choices.
1-be the bigger person and apologize
2-or tell her to leave you alone and never talk to you.
but i recommend you to find a way to resolve it
2006-10-29 08:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋