asking guys age 40 and over?

Question

Okay, we all know people of both genders who are our age can be tired, stressed, have variations in their level of sexual desire. But is it normal for a man to say his marriage is great but almost never want to have sex, like once every couple of months, and when the wife initiates or asks about increasing the frequency, he takes the stand that sex just isn't important to him any more? Am I mistaken to think many men like, want, and try to have sex well past 40? Don't guys these ages, er, have occasional glitches, but can usually perform, and if not, they would try again soon, and/or get help? Don't a lot of guys in their 40s, 50s, sixties still want sex "often", say, usu. a couple times a week or more? My guy basically just quit our sex life altogether. He is 51, I am 46. No sex for almost two years. :-(

Answer 1

i'm presuming your husband is able to obtain an erection and complete the sex act. therefore, i suggest you have him see a urologist or endocronologist to have his TESTOSTERONE level checked. if the reading comes back low, that could be the cause of his lack of interest in sex. testosterone controls a mans libido.
there are many gels, shots, creams, etc.. that can be used to increase his testosterone level, thus increasing his desires for sex.
i'm 59. i do have ED, but the desire is still present. there are other ways to have sex, and we do, besides vaginal intercourse.
you might want to talk with your husband about your sexual needs. ask him to provide you with more opportunities for sexual gratification. sex may not be of utmost mportance to him, but does that automatically make YOU the victim of his views.
good luck!

Answer 2

Is he telling the truth? Im male in my 40s and I still want sex alot. Not as much as my younger years but still Id say 2-3 times a week or more depending on how tired I get from working alot. Try to remember the thing that turned him on the most back in the day and use your naughty imagination to the 2nd power with that. Maybe that will amp up his libido. It would mine baby.

Answer 3

Prior to my wife passing away three years ago, we had sex a couple times per week. We were both in mid-40s. I am now 52 and havent had sex since before she passed away and was sick which is over 4 years. Yes I miss it, but it is not the end of the world.

Answer 4

As you say some men's sexual drive decreases after forty.I for one don't want sex every day but still enjoy it two or three times a week. Try viagra or one of the other performance enhancers,It's rather fun!

Answer 5

Well, I still do! I'm in my 40's and have never had any 'glitches', maybe he has a problem in that department that he is embarrased to talk about? Some men don't like to admit to such things and he might need some encouragement to open up about it. You're going to have to talk about it or it will eat away at your marriage. Good luck.

Answer 6

Sounds like he may be experiencing some type of dysfunction and is to embarrassed to tell you.There are a lot of factors controlling desire,but cant imagine no desire.Hate to bring this up,but is there a chance he is seeing someone else?Ask him to help you with this,there has to be a reason,physical ,psychological or both.See a professional for help.

Answer 7

There is a problem that needs to be talked about. It could be ED, depression, illness of some kind, etc. It's time for conversation and a visit to the doctor

Answer 8

There's a drug out there called Viagra, Talk to your Dr. to see if your husband qualifies. As for myself, I'm 46 yrs old and no problem here.

Answer 9

i am 47 my wife is 46, we have sex about 4 to 6 times a week, and sometimes she wakes me up in the mornings giving me oral to get things going WAAAAAHOOOOO,,,,,

Answer 10

wow, sex loses importance at some point. but two years is a long time. he should meet my wife shes cold as ice.....lol
is his health ok? maybe girl on the side????..