How do I tell my Christian parents I'm bi??

Question

I am 16 and bi. It doesn't bother people at my school who know, but how do I tell my parents??
If they didn't criticize any one who wasn't white and straight all the time, it wouldn't matter so much to me...but I dunno what to do.

My mom is VERY christian...n a lil mean. She doesn't like me dating people of any other race n she criticizes gay people way too much. Problem: I like making out with this Latino girl I know...which is as far as I'll go with a girl, btw. I want to tel her cause the more she talks about gay people n other races, the sicker I get. Any suggestions?

NOTE::

I am a STRONG Christian. The only reason I kiss girls is because I see no difference in lips between guys n gals. I will grow up n marry a man n have children with him, as God told his children to do. I will not become a lesbian, since that is not my desire to mock God. I know he will forgive me, however, for my supposed "sins", a slong as I ask for forgiveness, I swear

Answer 1

you know your parents best so it really is for you to decide. i decided to wait to come out to my parents until after i finished high school and moved out. it was a good choice, they haven't talked to me since.

Answer 2

I don't see any reason to tell your parents how you really feel unless it's to gain their understanding. Wanting to tell them just because you don't like living a lie is really not a good idea. We all live lies in some ways all the time. especially when the truth will hurt the other person. In this case, the truth will hurt your mother (and father) as well as yourself, and help no-one.

So if you are looking for understanding, or for respect from your mother to bolster your own self-respect, you will find the opposite of what you seek.

Wait until you are an adult, at least, to take a stand on this issue, as taking a stand is part of what you feel the need to do now. But it's just not the right time yet to do it.

Answer 3

Do it slowly. First state your opinions on gay and people of other races when ever it comes up. let them know where you stand on the subjects. then after they know how you feel, if you think it is important enough or real enough for you to tell them just tell them that you respect their beliefs and you arent doing this to rebel or hurt them but you have feelings for girls and other races. They will love you no matter what because you are family.

Answer 4

sheesh... that's a tough one. depending on what u mean by "making out", this situation could get very hairy, very fast. i am a Christian, but i understand that some ppl. have different sexual preferences, and DEFINITELY i'm not racist. that is very weird, no offense to your 'rents. i would break it to them gradually, like sometime when you're talking to your mom, say that u don't honestly mind other races, or imply that it's fairly normal for teenage girls to "mess around", because it is. good luck!

Answer 5

Best advice (coming from someone in a similar situation), save up your money so you have something to fall back on; wait until you graduate high school, and if you can stick it out, college; and basically wait until you're independent.

Answer 6

Here's the thing about homo, bi, trans. it's all a lie. God created man and woman to become one through marriage. You are 16, that is a very confusing time of life. people on all different sides are telling you different things. when you feel attracted to the same sex, it's satan lying to you. He want's to lead you astray. The bible says it's a sin. It doesn't say it's the worst sin, or that you're a horrible person if you do it, but it is a sin, just like lying and stealing are sins.

your mom sounds like one of those people who considers it to be a pretty bad sin. Maybe you could tell her while a youth pastor or minister was in the room mediating. honestly, your mother cannot condemn you. There is no passage in the bible that says you will go to hell if you are bi. If God isn't condemning you, how can she? In fact, there are christians who struggle with the same thing. you don't have to give in to temptation, God is there for you, he's cheering you on. I will pray that you make the right decision.

God bless you.

Answer 7

It really doesn't sound like you'd be able to tell your parents. They don't sound like intelligent "Christians" who love unconditionally. They should accept who you are regardless of whether they beleive it's right or not. I don't like racist Christians either. If you can't love other races here on earth you surely can't love them in heaven, so I guess the other alternative is to burn in hell with them.

Answer 8

your sexual preference does not need to be discussed with your mother. she obviously is not going to support such a thing for you and i can see one of you getting hurt because the truth hurts. does she need to know you are bi? or think you might be? i don't think so. you are only 16, you may not KNOW what you are. you are still learning about life, and all it entails, and believe me, you DON'T know how your mother will react. i say wait until she asks, if she ever does. it's really not her business.

Answer 9

"Mom, Dad, I'm bisexual."

Since your parents criticize all non-white and non-straight people, this could be a really good opportunity to sort of open their eyes a bit. They'll have to re-evaluate their judgements of people different than themselves.

Answer 10

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