Hi all,
I met my girlfriend when i was 19 yrs old, im 36 now and she was the first and has been the only woman ive ever slept with.I am not ugly and have had a few good offers from other women since.
The problem is (if u can call it a problem) although i love women
i couldn't face cheating on my girlfriend.When i go out with my friends im supprised how every single one of them will get off with another woman at the drop of a hat even though they are married or have girlfriends already. Me and my girlfriend get on great together with very few problems and sex is still great even after 17 yrs together. I guess im just scared that one day i will wake up an old man unable to perform and regret i didnt sleep around more.
I would like to hear your views plz on this one.
2006-10-29 07:17:26 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I,d just like to add that we talk about getting married all the time but it seems that when
we get a load of cash together we always blow it on a big family holiday (did i mention we also have 3 kids together?), maybe one day it will be a honeymoon. Thanks guys I
have realised from your comments that we
truely do have something special. maybe its true its just a mid-life crisis im going through. :>)
2006-10-29 07:39:25 · update #1
you have something others are jealous of, a good secure loving relationship, you are faithful.how can you regret that??
2006-10-29 07:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Which would you regret more, not having slept around or having thrown away a great relationship with your girlfriend and kids for one night of semi-anonymous sex that probably wouldn't be great?
I'd be more worried about your friends behaving the way they do, unless they're in open relationships.
Maybe it's something you could discuss with your wife? Not "hey, I want to sleep with other women" but more "Do you think we'll ever regret becoming exclusive so young without having time to experiment with other people?"
Personally I think you're onto a good thing with your gf, and if it ain't broke then don't fix it!
2006-10-29 21:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by lauriekins 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sex in my marriage has never been good and is even worse now. Due to a lack of having slept around and gaining some experience, I have no idea how to improve it and she doesn't want to. Just thought I'd offer a little different viewpoint here.
2006-10-29 15:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are saying. But you should rejoice in the facts you relate. Sleeping around is not the same as a bond shared between two people built over many years. Don't break the bond out of mere curiosity. If it ain't broken theres nothing to fix
2006-10-29 15:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy why do you care what anyone thinks if you love her and have been together for this long to hell with what anyone else thinks.
It's not cool to have someone who loves you and you love them, then to go off with someone else on the side, if you are happy then you don't have to.
You should never regret anything you have done in your life, look forward and never look back.
According to records and polls more than sixty percent of my generation will not get married for that reason and more.
Be happy with what you have more people never get it.
2006-10-29 15:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Engel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You show self respect and respect towards your partner !!! You have a great deal more maturity, your mates still seem to be trying to prove something. Hey, if the love making is still great (and probably better) after all those years even more fantastic. Congrats xxxx
2006-10-29 15:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by minitheminx65 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is still good I dont think you should sleep around just to increase your numbers. your not missing anything accept heart ache. besides you dont want to lose the great emotional AND physical thing you've got with your girl just for a one night physical thing with another. You are normal and you are just lucky to have found it the first time around.
2006-10-29 15:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by june.thirteenth 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have something that your friends can never have and will never have. If you sleep with someone else that thing will be gone forever. The regret you will then feel will be incomparable to the regret you might feel in future. Don't do it.
2006-10-29 15:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is your one and only, how come no marriage?Good for you, no cheating! So you didn't sleep around, think of it this way, you stayed free of diseases you could have gotten!
Don't worry the grass isn't really that much greener on the other side of the fence!
2006-10-29 15:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are happy, and your girlfriend is happy I don't see why it should be a problem... I would much rather be with a man that has had very few lovers than someone that has had a whole parade of them.
2006-10-29 15:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My hat is off to you, Sir! You sound like a great man. Nothing to be ashamed of. Keep up the good work!!
2006-10-29 15:27:32 · answer #11 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋