why am i afraed to grow up???(please BE SERIOUS)?

Question

i have dyslexia, adhd, and emotional issues. i act 15 but i'm 18. i know i'm inmature. i'm still in high school. but all my friends are geting jobs and i am soo scared. i cant get a job yet! i cant drive. i can take the bus, so thats a step.

my question is: what can i do to be more mature, but not too fast?

PLEASE THINK BEFORE YOU SAY, PLEASE BE KIND!
THANKS!

Answer 1

To be honest, I do not believe that there is a way to "force" yourself to grow up. From what you stated, you have some issues and these can very well affect your behaviors. The fact that you stated that you have emotional issues (this is quite vague) can be a contributing factor as to why you do not behave according to your chronological age (18), but more according to your mental age (15). I am not sure what type of services you have been engaged in, but it sounds as if you could benefit from therapeutic services, and quite possibly life skills and vocational skills coaching. Further, you stated that you have a fear, you must attempt to overcome these. So my advice, find a mentor (and possibly a coach like described above), develop a greater sense of self-esteem, as well as a plan, and act. Because it appears that you have a developmental delay, you can't rush yourself to "be older," but instead move at your own, comfortable pace. You have to be comfortable with yourself.

Answer 2

Growing up and accepting more responsibility is a scary thing. You need to start taking on more responsibility at a pace that you can deal with, but not too slow. Don't put it off, or make goals that are too easy to attain. Taking the bus was an excellent first step. Now its time to set some more goals - and strive to attain them. I assume you still live with you parents. If so, start by taking on more responsibility for yourself around the house. Sit down with a calendar and write down something you want to start doing for yourself each week - then follow through. Some suggestions are - doing your own laundry, cooking a meal for the family, some specific cleaning task, etc. Just make sure that each goal is somewhat of a challenge for you, or you will not grow from the experience. And don't develop an "I can't" attitude because of your disabilities. You may find that you have real limitations, but you won't know what those are until you give it an honest try. Good luck!

Answer 3

Well, everybody has a time to mature.
But, if you want to mature faster you should try to get more responsabities.
Do you have any pet?
Look after childrem.
Get a job. You can be a waitress.
if you have dyslexia, you sohuld study more than other people.

other tip:

Don´t be afraid. It´s normal, I´m afraid to grow up. everybody has had this problem

Answer 4

well you can maybe try to drive .... or maybe do something that has to do with a " job" like volenteer .... thats like a job only you dont get paid...


and if you wanna learn how to drive .... you should try learning how to drive a golf cart!!!! they are really kewl


but other than that .... good luck .... and i dont wanna grow up either but i no i have to and sometimes i catch myself acting 11 and im 13 !!!!

Answer 5

If you do not feel you are ready to handle a job, then I wouldn't suggest getting one just yet.
Talk to your parents or a trusted adult and tell them how you are feeling. They can help by giving you suggestions as to where to go from here with your life. And remember, you are only 18. You have lots of time to be a grown-up.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

be more responsible by setting goals and takin steps to acomplish them {make sure they are a good difficulty level and resoable}

Answer 7

Start hanging out with ppl your age. They will help you act how you should. Listen to music ppl your age listen to.