I promised him I'd go with him and his partner to a halloween party on Friday and then, last minute another friend called and offered me a FREE ticket to Barbra Strieshand and I happen to enjoy her music. I told my friend I was invited to Barbra and woudln't go if it would upset him and he seemed ok, but now he's mad. Isn't okay since he was already going with his partner? I didn't just let him go alone. I told him I'd meet up with them later and tried to call them but they never called back. Should they be mad, or am I ok? Help!
2006-10-29 07:12:05 · 10 answers · asked by aquarian77 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You did everything I would have. You communicated, you were thoughtful of his feelings and even offered to turn down the concert if it meant him getting upsetting with your change of plans. I don't understand how he could have been upset with you. Maybe they didn't call back because they were not near the phone. Don't be worried about any of this. If for some silly reason there is resentment on his part about that night, then he should have communicated it to you when you asked. Don't give it any more thought. You're a good friend.
2006-10-29 07:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by sweeta : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should have done is called and said "I have the opportunity to see Barbara, would you mind if I went instead of going to the party with you?" The actual scenario, he shouldn't be mad about. The underlying principle, he does have a right. The question is, have you ditched him before? There may be more to his feelings of hurt than appears on the surface.
2006-10-29 15:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by lynn c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person was a real friend, he will get over it eventualy. He does and doesn't have a right to be mad. 1.) you did promise you would go with him. 2.) he shouldn't be mad because he's also going with someone else. Unless he like you, you should be ok
2006-10-29 15:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Aliza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have no reason to be mad at you because you gave him the option to insist you go with him. It sounds like he's being greedy and expecting everyone to be with him. You had a great opportunity and you went for it, he should be happy for you. There will be more parties!
2006-10-29 15:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF your friendship is true-blue his miffed feelings will blow over. You did tell him before you went and even offered to pass the free offer. So, that was his time to voice an opinion. You gave him the time so if he is mad let him stew. He will either get over it or not.
2006-10-29 15:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by noisychatterbox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being stupid. U asked him if it was OK and he said yes... If it was gonna upset him he should have said something... And its not like u made him go alone or anything... he had someone else to go with... he needs to get over it...
2006-10-29 15:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by ksm_623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you covered all the bases and was honest about it all. He DID have someone else to go with him......He should get over it soon if he's a good friend.
2006-10-29 15:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by coach_garry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is sensative, what you did might hurt his feelings, but you should not have made other plans when you already had plans with someone else, maybe it meant alot to him that you were going to go with him, you need to confront him and talk to him..good luck
2006-10-29 15:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by donttalkjustplay05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL PROMISES MEAN ALOT TO ME AND YOU SAID YOU PROMISED HIM YOU WOULD GO THEN YOU BACKED OUT FOR SOMETHING ELSE , YOU MIGHT LIKE BARBARAS MUSIC BUT YOU DID PROMISE ,,,SO I CAN SEE WHY HES A LITTLE AGGREVATED. PROMISES ARE NOT MADE TO BE BROKEN.
2006-10-29 15:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by pinkice430 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there going to have to get over it,you only live once kid.
2006-10-29 15:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by a1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋