My bestfriend and I attend Nursing school together. She was raised spoiled and is very selfish but a wonderful person overall. I just found out about my breast cancer and have lost my job, had to withdraw this semester and can't work. I am not in a good spot. My family has no money but they are trying to do for me what they can. I just know if the roles were reversed I would do ANYTHING to help her. Am I being selfish for being angry at her for not even offering to help? Every day she calls me and tells me about her new 5 bedroom house, her new clothes ect. I don't want to hear it...yes, I'm jealous but I feel like she's rubbing it in my face and deep down I know she's not because we always talk about everything. So...am I wrong for feeling angry and just plain pist?
2006-10-29 06:51:38 · 14 answers · asked by Harleygal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, you aren't wrong. Jealousy is a normal human emotion. You are suffering and she is doing well - more so than most. She may have many worldly belongings, but she is obviously lacking in compassion and love. You aren't. You are a caring and sensitive person. Right now you need comfort and she isn't the person to give to you. Take strength in your family. If you don't have the financial means to support your illness, there are government agencies that will assist. My tax payer dollars support this as well as others. That is why I am there for you as well as other people are. Have faith and be strong. I will pray for you.
2006-10-29 07:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by Phyllobates 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
To agree with some: I'm sure you're angry at the cancer and your unfortunate situation. It would be nice for her to be more supportive and understanding, but does she know how much you're struggling? That doesn't mean you should try to make her feel guilty for being so fortunate relative to your situation, but if you value her friendship, I would let her know how you feel. If that ends up driving a wedge between you, then perhaps she is not the best friend you need. But it might help her understand you and bring you closer together. Before you talk though, consider what it is that you'd like from her. Are you actually expecting financial help? Or just for her to be a little more sensitive to your situation and to spend a little extra time with you?
2006-10-29 07:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by volleyjacket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect your friend to react they way you would in situations...SHE IS NOT YOU! I think your just a little bitter because you were struck with this cancer, and she has no clue of what you are going through. While you have had to make life altering decisions, your friends' life is still the perfect (atleast this is what you think), financially set life she has always had. I think you should redirect your animosity towards your friend, and what you don't have, and rather be grateful that you have a loving and caring family. Money can't buy or fix everything! If you need the financial help, why not ask? If you have always talked about the same things with your friend, before you were sick, and now feel that her motives are different..You may need to get counseling, and learn how to deal/cope with your situation. No matter how strong we think we are..... we always need something or someone and never know it! Good luck, and God Bless....
2006-10-29 07:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are so caught up in there world, they don't know what it's like to be without, or in need...
She's blinded by her good fortune. Maybe she doesn't know she's being selfish, cause to tell the truth if she does know she's not much of a friend. Much less a best one! !
Talk to her............If you need help ask her. Like I said, maybe she's not the type to offer help having never needing it herself.
Good luck, and I'm sorry to hear about your cancer. ! !
2006-10-29 07:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand! I can see why you'd feel upset! I would be very mad if my friend was calling every day to tell me about her fortunes and not paying attention to mine! I have a friend who has everything and more! She's an only child, and gets what she wants when she wants it. It's ok to feel that way. Tell her that you really don't feel like talking about that. It'll be hard, but you can do it. I'm sorry that you have breast cancer. I'll be praying for you.
God bless and protect.
AJ
2006-10-29 06:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by abby c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe your friend would act so selfish and spoiled. A person who does that is not a true friend. A real friend would be there by your side making should you're doing okay. And help out in any way.
2006-10-29 08:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by Tori 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is such a bi*ch!
i dont think shes the right friend for you.
if she was a good friend she would have givin you some money to treat your breast cancer and help you out. and to top it all off that inconciderate bi*ch keeps calling you to brag about all the stuff she has. I dont think she is the right friend for you. but its your choice. you can stick with her if you want. but if i were you, i wouldn't.
2006-10-29 06:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by [blahh] ™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES i thnk u shuld b mad b/c if shes spoild then she shuld do sumthing!and i kno how u feel w/ her rubbin stuff in ur face i gots a problem w/ mi best friend doin dat!i feel sooooo sorry 4 u!i hope u can overcum tha cancer!!!luvz ya!
2006-10-29 07:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by *hoops* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a little jealous. Yes, she should offer MORAL support. But you shouldn't make her responsible for your financial needs.
2006-10-29 06:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by culture_killer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably has no idea that you need her help, so don't be afraid to ask her. Tell her that your family is doing everything they can, but they have no money. Tell her that you need her help. She is your friend, so chances are she'll help you.
2006-10-29 06:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋